-- Posted by MiNNiCK at 8:44 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I love bringing my Human Sexuality class into LW because we bring up a lot of interesting topics to discuss. So here's the question: If your son was playing with what's considered a girls toy or if your daughter was playing with what's considered a boys toy, would you be upset and how would you react? My father...flips the fuck out on my brother for playing with girly things and wanting to do girly things. I think it's dumb of him. (my father that is) -- Posted by melodramatic at 8:45 am on Oct. 2, 2008 A toy is a toy. And if my child grew up to be gay, I wouldn't discriminate against him/her. That's their choice. It's nothing I would do wrong as a parent. And I would love my children regardless of what they did. -- Posted by Fondziie at 8:46 am on Oct. 2, 2008 id be ok with it -- Posted by BlueFootedBoobie at 8:46 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I wouldn't be upset.  As long as the child was enjoying the toy, I wouldn't see anything wrong with it. Now, if my child were playing with matches or scissors, I'd be rather upset. -- Posted by daz101 at 8:46 am on Oct. 2, 2008 i wouldn't react if it makes my son happy -- Posted by MiNNiCK at 8:48 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Oh there's a boy who doesn't think it'd be okay...I wish he'd post! -- Posted by danity kane kisses at 8:48 am on Oct. 2, 2008 well my 3year old plays with play guns and water pistols and she's a girl and i find it okay but then again shes a lil tomboy any way cause she has 8 uncles from my side of the family and her dads -- Posted by its only me at 8:49 am on Oct. 2, 2008 i agree. I wouldn't react atall we've all gotta learn how a car works or how to help out at home at some point (stereotypical views) what difference does it make if you do it as a child or an adult? I think homophobia has alot to do with how the parents react. It wasnt accepted back then, therefore they assume if you're playing with a girls toy and you're a boy you're going to be gay. This simply isn't the case. -- Posted by FTF at 8:49 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I wouldn't encourage it, but you know.. If they want to play with those kinds of toys so be it. I don't think its really out of the ordinary for a girl to play with toys typically associated with boys. Look at it this way, girls can pretty much wear any clothes guys wear. However, its not socially accepted for a guy to wear a dress. I figure, same applies to toys. As for boys playing with girl toys, I think thats a little odd, but I wouldn't disown him for it. At most I'd try and passively discourage. -- Posted by LondonGirl11 at 8:49 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I wouldn't be bothered. -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 8:49 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I played with boys toys and my kids can play with whatever toy they wan't -- Posted by constantlyunconstant at 8:51 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Your dad is very old fashion like the dad in Chuck and Larry, he has to understand that his unconscious thought that if his son plays with girl toys that his son isnt gay ,and vise versa for a girl playing with boy toys-all she gets called is a tom boy..nothing wrong with that, and the world should opn up to kids being a new generation where society is putting in the idea that there is no more gender or race..ppl are ppl and i like that idea...other then when ppl are crazyyy -- Posted by MiNNiCK at 8:51 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Punkrocker 1992 at 11:49 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I wouldn't encourage it, but you know.. If they want to play with those kinds of toys so be it. I don't think its really out of the ordinary for a girl to play with toys typically associated with boys. Look at it this way, girls can pretty much wear any clothes guys wear. However, its not socially accepted for a guy to wear a dress. I figure, same applies to toys. As for boys playing with girl toys, I think thats a little odd, but I wouldn't disown him for it. At most I'd try and passively discourage. I totally agree with you. The clothes thing is something I can associate with. My little brother likes dressing up in girl clothes at age 13, that bothers my father  A LOT. -- Posted by IceTeaEdwin at 8:52 am on Oct. 2, 2008 A toy is a toy...but I would be the one buying guy toys to him/ girl toys to her...so I wouldn't know where they got the opposite gender toy :/ -- Posted by MiNNiCK at 8:53 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from IceTeaEdwin at 11:52 am on Oct. 2, 2008 A toy is a toy...but I would be the one buying guy toys to him/ girl toys to her...so I wouldn't know where they got the opposite gender toy :/ At a friends house? From a birthday party? As a Christmas gift? In a daycare center? -- Posted by LittleMissTinkerbell at 8:53 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I'd be totally alright with that. A toy is a toy. I used to play with my brothers cars when I was younger. -- Posted by MiNNiCK at 8:53 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from constantlyunconstant at 11:51 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Your dad is very old fashion like the dad in Chuck and Larry, he has to understand that his unconscious thought that if his son plays with girl toys that his son isnt gay ,and vise versa for a girl playing with boy toys-all she gets called is a tom boy..nothing wrong with that, and the world should opn up to kids being a new generation where society is putting in the idea that there is no more gender or race..ppl are ppl and i like that idea...other then when ppl are crazyyy I totally understand that, I just think he's crazy -- Posted by FTF at 8:54 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Minnick at 8:51 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Punkrocker 1992 at 11:49 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I wouldn't encourage it, but you know.. If they want to play with those kinds of toys so be it. I don't think its really out of the ordinary for a girl to play with toys typically associated with boys. Look at it this way, girls can pretty much wear any clothes guys wear. However, its not socially accepted for a guy to wear a dress. I figure, same applies to toys. As for boys playing with girl toys, I think thats a little odd, but I wouldn't disown him for it. At most I'd try and passively discourage.   I totally agree with you. The clothes thing is something I can associate with. My little brother likes dressing up in girl clothes at age 13, that bothers my father  A LOT. Hmmm, thats a little weird, but not something I'd like hate him for. There is this guy at my school who dresses up in girls clothes. Not like bras and dresses, just girly T-shirts and such. I have since found out he is gay, but hey, their choice. If it were my kid I'd love him/her nonetheless, but then maybe its different if you are actually a parent having to deal with these issues. -- Posted by BeautifulLies82 at 8:54 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I would be fine with it. My sister dressed in boys clothes for years and shes fine. -- Posted by switchfoot52 at 8:54 am on Oct. 2, 2008 on occassion is ok but not all the time. i'd encourage a boy to especially not to play with dolls. that's just weird -- Posted by carbonara at 8:55 am on Oct. 2, 2008 My cousin is 5 and she is obsessed with trains. Seriously, every question you ask her you always get an answer related to trains "What did you do at school today?" - " I drew a picture of a train" I asked her once if she preferred trains or her daddy and she said trains. In her bedroom she has a massive train set and at 5 she already knows whether a train is a diesel or not just by looking at it. -- Posted by MiNNiCK at 8:55 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Punkrocker 1992 at 11:54 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Minnick at 8:51 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Punkrocker 1992 at 11:49 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I wouldn't encourage it, but you know.. If they want to play with those kinds of toys so be it. I don't think its really out of the ordinary for a girl to play with toys typically associated with boys. Look at it this way, girls can pretty much wear any clothes guys wear. However, its not socially accepted for a guy to wear a dress. I figure, same applies to toys. As for boys playing with girl toys, I think thats a little odd, but I wouldn't disown him for it. At most I'd try and passively discourage. I totally agree with you. The clothes thing is something I can associate with. My little brother likes dressing up in girl clothes at age 13, that bothers my father A LOT. Hmmm, thats a little weird, but not something I'd like hate him for. There is this guy at my school who dresses up in girls clothes. Not like bras and dresses, just girly T-shirts and such. I have since found out he is gay, but hey, their choice. If it were my kid I'd love him/her nonetheless, but then maybe its different if you are actually a parent having to deal with these issues. It is weird in a sense, because it's not just casual girl clothes, it's like skirts and what ever. I just figured if my dad really wanted to talk to him about it, he could do it a lot more maturely instead of screaming at him. -- Posted by MiNNiCK at 8:56 am on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from carbonara at 11:55 am on Oct. 2, 2008 My cousin is 5 and she is obsessed with trains. Seriously, every question you ask her you always get an answer related to trains   "What did you do at school today?" - " I drew a picture of a train" I asked her once if she preferred trains or her daddy and she said trains. In her bedroom she has a massive train set and at 5 she already knows whether a train is a diesel or not just by looking at it. I think that's really neat -- Posted by Chava at 8:57 am on Oct. 2, 2008 My son plays with boy and girl things all the time. I don't mind either. I mean he's one he doesn't even know the difference. -- Posted by roflfuckyou at 9:02 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I watched something on tv a while back about a boy who was 6 and played with girls toys and then started dressing like girls and turned his room pink and pretty, and they were associating how that happened as he is only 6 and didn't know anything about well, anything, and the mother said he first started playing with barbies when he was 4 and it just grew from there, and so they stated that there might be a link between the types of toys they grow up with and their personality/sexuality. There has been studies that have proven kids to be more aggressive/violent/excited/energetic because of the types of toys and television shows they grow up around, and because of their continuously growing and learning brain, they adapt to that and that's all they know, they don't know what's normal or not. I think by a certain age boys should tend to boys toys and girls to girls toys, but while they're young I can't see a problem, as long as they're entertained and quiet, but when they start developing their personality, you know when they start going to pre-school and walking talking making decisions any sign of a personality then I would start opting for them to be associating themselves with the gender-typed toys But if they didn't want to then I would be ok with that, I wouldn't mind if they turned out whatever sexuality but yeah just my opinion -- Posted by KKKay at 9:05 am on Oct. 2, 2008 A toy is a toy. I wouldn't get mad, thats just stupid... -- Posted by Firefly00 at 9:06 am on Oct. 2, 2008 I'd be totally okay with it. I wouldn't want my child to be forced by society to behave in a certain way. Children get forced into roles so young, example: because you're a girl you have to play with kitchen toys or dolls. I personally don't agree with it. If my future son wants to play with Barbie's, that's fine by me. It doesn't mean he'll grow up gay or he'll grow up and be weak. It just means he's young and he's exploring the world.