-- Posted by MischaELLE at 8:15 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 by some freak coincident my friend found out that she has acute leukemia and she only has 4 months more to live and she is refusing any kind of treatment. im not thaat close with this girl but were still good friends and i love her. i hung out with her today (she up and left to australia when she found out about her sickness but she didnt tell anyone until recently) and then i had to come home to pray the rosary with my family for some random reason. but i prayed for my friend and it just hit me that shes really dying. im so sad im going to cry alot tonight i know it. i want to do some CRAZY thing with her before shes too sick to do anything anymore. any ideas? has anyone been in a similar situation before? -- Posted by MischaELLE at 8:20 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 thanks support leaders... great job helping me thanks.   -- Posted by rinni at 9:30 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 That is very sad to hear. Four months isn't very much time, but if she's not accepting any treatment, then she might not be as weak as if she WERE on treatment. Now one question: Does she have a chance? Or is she just too afraid to get treatment done? Like the whole disappointment of it not defeating her cancer or anything like that? For ideas I would say talk to her. See if there's anything that she really would like to do before her time is up. Or try to see if you can get a program like Make-A-Wish to maybe do something for her that you yourself could never afford, etc. In my honest opinion I'd say being there for her, keeping her company, and letting her know that she's NOT alone if the best thing you can do for her. I'm sure she's scared and having someone around to be there for her might help her with this.   -- Posted by cherryD at 7:19 am on Oct. 11, 2008  4 months goes by in a flash. It must be really hard on her. And if she had realized it later then...  If it is the last stage, is there actually any treatment?  Do you know her well? In 4 months she can start doing whatever she had always wanted to do; while your role is that you are going to do something so unforgettable and fun that she's going to remember it and treasure the moment in the last few days she has.  Basically, we can't really help you unless we know what she is craving deep within her or what she had always wanted to do but didn't do.  Remember: don't cry in front of her, it would just make everything sadder. Act as if she's not going to die, and it's just a pretty normal day for both of you.  Maybe if you'd like to surprise her, ask her what she likes and slowly beat your way around what she really wants to do. Then the next day or two days later suddenly call her and tell her to meet you somewhere.  Or do you want to throw her this surprise party? Bring all her closest friends and stuff like that?