-- Posted by Anonymous at 3:58 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. And I love him more than anything. The thing is, before he knew me, I used to be a cutter. And well you know how old habits die hard, I've still had compulsions where I wanted to cut. He doesn't know this. He gave me a bracelet for valentines day this year, which I haven't taken off since he put it on. The wrist he put it on was my "cutting wrist" so to say. And this bracelet has kept me from cutting myself. Because every time I want to, I look to where I would cut and see the bracelet. Which just kind of reminds me that I am worth something to someone. It means so much to me, and I hate keeping things from him. But I'm just not sure if I should tell him? -- Posted by ralili at 4:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think you should. He would support you and love you. It's best not to keep secrets from those you love. -- Posted by emo asian girl at 4:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 i think you should tell him -- Posted by millyness at 4:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think the truth is better than lying. I mean, even if he doesn't accept this...he kinda doesn't know what he has then , u know? But yeah, go for it, let him know about how u feel bout cutting now that u dont do it. -- Posted by Googoie at 4:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I have the same problem. -- Posted by KendallMoc at 4:01 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think you should. It's really sweet. -- Posted by bb32135 at 4:01 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from ralili at 4:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think you should. He would support you and love you. It's best not to keep secrets from those you love. I agree -- Posted by jellybeana4 at 4:01 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 You should. Maybe he can help? -- Posted by hithere at 4:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 tell him if you want, don't tell him if you don't....i don't see how it would make a big difference to him either way... -- Posted by Siress at 4:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Not until it presents an issue or is directly asked. It serves no purpose unless it's becoming an issue. -- Posted by freedom at 4:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 You would just make him paranoid and constantly worrying about you. Is it really worth it? -- Posted by BeautifulxLiar at 4:04 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from ralili at 7:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think you should. He would support you and love you. It's best not to keep secrets from those you love. that^ -- Posted by mendingheart518 at 4:05 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I'd tell him, Plus sounds like he truely cares about you. Maybe he can even help you with your feelings of wanting too. I used to cut, and i used to drink and pop a lot of pills. Now, i am 100% clean from everything after 4 years and I told my fiance everything. we been together now close to 2 years and have a wonderful baby on the way. He has helped me and stuck by my side through everything. I stopped everything when we got together. I think he would support you and it's good to get it off your chest ya know? Be honest with him :) and good luck with everything and I wish you the best -- Posted by Anonymous at 4:06 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from freedom at 7:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 You would just make him paranoid and constantly worrying about you. Is it really worth it? Well considering I have been talking about how I need a psychiatrist, and he knows I had one in the past, I'm not sure how he'd be worrying any more so. -- Posted by Duke at 4:06 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from KendallMoc at 6:01 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think you should. It's really sweet.   If you're not comfortable telling him, then don't. He doesn't have to know everything about your life. -- Posted by agerask at 4:06 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from Siress at 4:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Not until it presents an issue or is directly asked. It serves no purpose unless it's becoming an issue. I agree with this. -- Posted by Anonymous at 4:07 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from millyness at 7:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think the truth is better than lying. I mean, even if he doesn't accept this...he kinda doesn't know what he has then , u know? But yeah, go for it, let him know about how u feel bout cutting now that u dont do it. It's not really lying unless he brings it up and I deny it though is it? -- Posted by freedom at 4:09 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:06 am on Oct. 14, 2008 Quote: from freedom at 7:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 You would just make him paranoid and constantly worrying about you. Is it really worth it? Well considering I have been talking about how I need a psychiatrist, and he knows I had one in the past, I'm not sure how he'd be worrying any more so. But I would see it as attention seeking, bringing up something unnecessary that would just cause other people distress. Maybe you should really think on the reasons you want to tell him. -- Posted by Audrey Forrest at 4:16 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I told my boyfriend about my history and now whenever I feel like I might relapse, he's always there for me to talk to about it.  I don't have to hide anything and it makes it so much easier for both of us.   -- Posted by Anonymous at 4:17 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from mendingheart518 at 7:05 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I'd tell him, Plus sounds like he truely cares about you. Maybe he can even help you with your feelings of wanting too. I used to cut, and i used to drink and pop a lot of pills. Now, i am 100% clean from everything after 4 years and I told my fiance everything. we been together now close to 2 years and have a wonderful baby on the way. He has helped me and stuck by my side through everything. I stopped everything when we got together. I think he would support you and it's good to get it off your chest ya know? Be honest with him :) and good luck with everything and I wish you the best Thanks, that honestly made the most sense out of everything -- Posted by Siress at 5:55 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 4:17 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from mendingheart518 at 7:05 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I'd tell him, Plus sounds like he truely cares about you. Maybe he can even help you with your feelings of wanting too. I used to cut, and i used to drink and pop a lot of pills. Now, i am 100% clean from everything after 4 years and I told my fiance everything. we been together now close to 2 years and have a wonderful baby on the way. He has helped me and stuck by my side through everything. I stopped everything when we got together. I think he would support you and it's good to get it off your chest ya know? Be honest with him :) and good luck with everything and I wish you the best Thanks, that honestly made the most sense out of everything Your mind was made up before you started this thread.