-- Posted by squeekybee at 3:17 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 I cut last year, a lot, I wont get into detail about back then. But now I am in a happy relationship (6 months), and I thought.. I had stopped. I was so confused about the relationship though; and I thought that it was going to end soon, and I thought if we broke up it would be my fault. But this past weekend, I couldn't take it, I tried talking to him, and it was kind of a temporary relief (talking to him), and I cut. again. I haven't in over a year. The day after I did it, we made up for the arguments and everything. And now I feel really stupid. I am still really confused. I talked to him about it because I felt like I was lying to him not telling him, but he said "People do that when they are lonely, or have lost hope." I did it for neither of those reasons. So why did I do it?   If I resulted to that, do you think our relationship is doomed now? I just really need some opinions please -- Posted by Gemmax at 3:19 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 get some help -- Posted by ashleyacid at 3:19 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 You just had a relapse  back into cutting. It is probably just a one time thing and you will probably never do it again. So dont worry about it, it doesn't mean your relationship is going to be bad. -- Posted by babecakes at 3:19 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 hah..help. -- Posted by MixedDelight at 3:20 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 Get some professional help I don't understand people who cut themselves. I think it's inappropriate, unnecessary and a form of weakness/giving up. If you feel down then talk to someone you trust, like a best friend. Don't just slice your skin. It solves nothing. -- Posted by MiaBia at 3:21 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 Because it USED to be a coping mechanism for you and when you lost your comfort in him, you tried to cope. Given, it was not the most constructive way to cope, it's perfectly normal. Relapse is a part of recovery. Recovery is a process. There is nothing wrong with you, your relationship is not doomed. That s**t about "you only do it if you've given up hope" is bull crap. He was pulling that out of his a*s. Find new coping mechanisms that don't involve him, so that next time you two fight, you can dye your hair or paint your nails. Feel better! -- Posted by micahvortega at 3:21 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 okay, i used to do that to myself too, about 5 years ago. and honestly, its really really pointless. there are so many other things you could do besides that :[ I'm pretty sure you did it because you just needed to feel, because you were not in touch with your feelings at the moment. yes? But there are so many other things you could do besides cutting. There's no point in harming yourself :[ -- Posted by unwantedtears xo at 3:22 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 I used to do it as stress relife..maybe your stressed. get some help. tell someone who cares and you'll get over it. (its a hard habbit to get rid of) -- Posted by tearyied at 3:24 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 i used 2 cut so when i say this im not judgeing u but u just have to find another way to deal with your pain for me its my music and my art focus ur pain to something positive -- Posted by squeekybee at 3:24 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 I might paint my nails. Thats a good idea, and I never thought of it as a one time relapse, that makes me feel a little better. Just the thing is. If I am happy...why did I do it. It's just confusing me.