-- Posted by Anonymous at 8:16 am on Nov. 1, 2008 I've been open to finding a g/f for about a year now, and I haven't been successful. I've asked three girls out on real dates and have been turned down all times. Just a few days ago, I asked this girl in my class with whom I had gotten friendly with if she wanted to go out for coffee and she said she wasn't interested. I have successfully gotten girls to come out with me on "pre-dates", but they've never blossomed into anything. I'm not insecure about my looks. I've heard enough compliments to be confident about my physical attractiveness. I also have a very diverse set of talents and interests, ranging from sports to arts. I don't think I'm a boring person. But I'm Asian, and I can't help but wonder if that's somehow negatively affecting me. I'm not socially insular, and I'm very open-minded (the girls I've asked out have been Middle Eastern, hapa black, and white). Is it supposed to be this difficult? -- Posted by SpM at 8:19 am on Nov. 1, 2008 Sounds like you've just been unlucky. -- Posted by Clear at 8:20 am on Nov. 1, 2008 no its not supposed to be that hard. try chillen out maybe i guess...dont be insecure at all! if you think you're the shit, you are the fucking shit. -- Posted by blufindr at 8:20 am on Nov. 1, 2008 Quote: from SpM at 1:19 am on Nov. 2, 2008 Sounds like you've just been unlucky. Agreed. -- Posted by Clear at 8:21 am on Nov. 1, 2008 Quote: from SpM at 8:19 am on Nov. 1, 2008 Sounds like you've just been unlucky. yeah prolly that too. but dont worry bro it will get simpler -- Posted by EmilyAnn at 7:51 pm on Nov. 2, 2008 I have no idea what you're like, but perhaps you come on too strong? How do you project your confidence toward women? -- Posted by Anonymous at 11:05 pm on Nov. 2, 2008 I have no idea what you're like, but perhaps you come on too strong? The word that I've heard used most often to describe me is "aloof". I don't think I come on too strong. -- Posted by helloworld at 11:11 pm on Nov. 2, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 2:05 am on Nov. 3, 2008 I have no idea what you're like, but perhaps you come on too strong? The word that I've heard used most often to describe me is "aloof". I don't think I come on too strong. You're probably not coming on strong enough. How aggressive were you on these "pre-dates"?