-- Posted by SweeterThanChocolate at 11:12 pm on Nov. 4, 2008 I don't normally ask for help, but... For those who don't know, I am currently on a course, training in the medical profession.  My time is divided between class and practical, on wards in a hospital, and a senior nurse/Dr is appointed a tutor, to help guide you when you're in the hospital and be there for assessment and that sort of thing. Anyway, problem starts in the last couple of weeks, when my tutor comes on to me.  She's probably in her late 50's, has a couple of grown up daughters who are married and have left home, she talks about them all the time.  I wasn't flattered, maybe I should have been, but I was more frightened to be honest.  The way she'd called me into tutorial for a chat, knowing all along she was going to suggest we went out sometime, the words and the actions making it quite clear she was thinking sexual I didn't tell anyone.  She is one of the most respected Sisters on the hospital ward, and who would believe me?   Since then, we have had an assessment, and I got a B.  Not that bad, I know.  But I always get B+ or and A- and I know I was marked down by her, because I rejected her.  As she walked past me, she said 'It will only get worse until you say yes' She's so fucking clever and sneaky, and says things when nobody is listening, or what she's saying can be attributed to another topic, but she knows and I know what she really means.   I did finally tell someone last night, who promised not to tell my parents, and 30 minutes later, she told my parents.  Wonderful!  I can't blame her though, I was in a bad state last night, and am not much better this morning.  It seems worse now I have told someone, maybe I shouldn't have opened my mouth What would you do? Would you complain, and risk people laughing or suggesting you're lying? Or would you just get on with it, until I change hospital in January, and pretend it never happened.  I wonder if she does this with any other girl students? Any words of support that could stop the tears would be appreciated. Thank you -- Posted by dreamweaver at 11:17 pm on Nov. 4, 2008 You never know until you voice yourself out. If you think they're may have been other girls who had issues with her before, then most likely there has been and it's all "hush hush". If anything, I would see if you can find someone else to be your tutor, and if they ask, just say "conflict of interests." You don't have to voice out the reason if you don't want to and this reasoning could mean one way or the other, and still can be seen as an acceptable reason. -- Posted by medjai at 2:44 pm on Nov. 6, 2008 No this is bullshit NEVER allow someone to mess with you like this you can do something no matter how respected she is. Agree to it and take a tape recorder and wait for incriminating shit and leave and then upload the recording to your comp to save it and then turn the recorder in to school dean or counselor with a note explaining. Fuck that tutor. She is threatening you with your grades, don't allow it. Even without proof, accuse her and ask for a new tutor because this one sexually harrasses you.