-- Posted by kristen16 at 6:46 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 So last night my boyfriend was supposed to come over to my house and hang out with me but my parents decide they didn't want him over. So since he didn't have school today he decide to head "home" to NJ a day early. but around 9:30 he texts me and says im in the hospital and he didn't text me back 4 a long time so around 10:57 he calls me and tells me everything he was in a car accident. And it was a miracle that he got out alive. I feel partly to blame for this if my parents would have let him come over even 4 5 minutes he wouldn't have been behind that car that made him swerve to miss and he wouldn't have flipped his car. So this morning he called me again and talked to me saying just how bad he was and stuff just lettin me know he was alive. Then i hung up with him and went to the bathroom and my mom asked who I was talking to so early.... I told her and I broke down and started crying. All my mom said is Im glad I didn't send you with him yesterday to hand out with him. She doesn't get it one bit. I need help how can I get my parents to understand? How can I get my boyfriend to understand if he is paralyzed I dont want him to leave me? Help me in anyway you can Please......    And yes I did post this before I just wanna see if I get different answers -- Posted by Amin mele lle at 6:48 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 If you want to be with him, just tell him that straight up. -- Posted by xXxLiberOxXx at 6:52 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 In my opinion, everything happens for a reason. And some ways, I think your parents were smart and wise. What you might think the best thing for yourself is, may actually not be. I doubt your boyfriend thinks it's you or your parents fault, I just think you want to find an excuse. I'm not trying to sound mean or disrespectful. Also, if you are around him, letting him know you care and will be there for him, I doubt he'll leave. The way to get your parents to understand is to tell them, but in a respectful manner, not one that presents itself as "it's all your fault". Maybe look at it from their perspective and even thank them, otherwise, you would've been in the same situation as he is, or even worse. Help ya at all? -- Posted by kristen16 at 6:54 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from xXxLiberOxXx at 6:52 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 In my opinion, everything happens for a reason. And some ways, I think your parents were smart and wise. What you might think the best thing for yourself is, may actually not be. I doubt your boyfriend thinks it's you or your parents fault, I just think you want to find an excuse. I'm not trying to sound mean or disrespectful. Also, if you are around him, letting him know you care and will be there for him, I doubt he'll leave. The way to get your parents to understand is to tell them, but in a respectful manner, not one that presents itself as "it's all your fault". Maybe look at it from their perspective and even thank them, otherwise, you would've been in the same situation as he is, or even worse. Help ya at all? Yea alittle I just dont see how if I was with him I would have gotten hurt we wouldn't have been on that road that it happened on but yea u did help thanks -- Posted by xXxLiberOxXx at 6:58 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from kristen16 at 6:54 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from xXxLiberOxXx at 6:52 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 In my opinion, everything happens for a reason. And some ways, I think your parents were smart and wise. What you might think the best thing for yourself is, may actually not be. I doubt your boyfriend thinks it's you or your parents fault, I just think you want to find an excuse. I'm not trying to sound mean or disrespectful. Also, if you are around him, letting him know you care and will be there for him, I doubt he'll leave. The way to get your parents to understand is to tell them, but in a respectful manner, not one that presents itself as "it's all your fault". Maybe look at it from their perspective and even thank them, otherwise, you would've been in the same situation as he is, or even worse. Help ya at all?   Yea alittle I just dont see how if I was with him I would have gotten hurt we wouldn't have been on that road that it happened on but yea u did help thanks Well, that's left for mystery. You can never know. Hope the situation gets lighter and your parents understand where you're coming from! :)