-- Posted by Anonymous at 11:05 pm on Nov. 8, 2008 i've been with my girlfriend for 5 months now.. and ever since the school year started, seeing each others has been incredibly hard. we'rre both busy people, she is more than i am though since shes involved in more activities and what not, but for the past month or two i've only been seeing or ONCE a week, twice sometimes if i get lucky.. i really absolutely like her so much, i wouldnt say love just yet but its getting there.. shes one of a kind and yea i don't wanna get too into it.. her parents are also kinda strict, her father doesnt and cant know we're together so i cant even go into her house at all, and its just tiring sometimes how she cancels so many dates.. she always says shes sorry and says she a horrible a gf so maybe i can feel sympathy for her n what not and she asks me if im mad but i say no when i really am.. should i take some sort of action, say something? i wouldnt break up since we're so attached but dont see each others.. ugh i dunno. what should i do? -- Posted by TTYLSUN at 11:07 pm on Nov. 8, 2008 how old are u -- Posted by Anonymous at 11:08 pm on Nov. 8, 2008 18 -- Posted by Just Waiting Here at 11:10 pm on Nov. 8, 2008 It's really up to you.  I know her end of the story, because my father is the same way.  He can't know I'm dating, he's better off not knowing it, and he would rather not know that I am.  And for that reason, I can understand your girlfriend's side. Now... in terms of cancelling dates, if they are legitimate reasons (other priorities, parents interferring, etc), then I say you have no grounds to take action on.  I'm a strong believer in not having a relationship affect other priorities that you may have (such as other extra curricular activities).  While it's important to have a balance, sometimes you have to deal with it. Is it possible to keep going?  That's up to you and her.  You CAN make it work.  My boyfriend and I were long distance for 9 months, and in that time, I saw him once for two weeks and once for two days.  And for about two months, I could only see him once or twice a week... and these days work and school make us rarely see each other as well.  We can work it out, so it's possible.  But it takes patience and commitment.  You can bring it up and talk to her about it, but if she can't change it, then you either accept it, or you move on, right? Communication is key.  Talking is one of the best steps to solving a problem, and who knows, it may help things out.  But if you can't find a way around it, then when you DO see each other once or twice a week, just cherish that time together and make it count :). -- Posted by blufindr at 11:11 pm on Nov. 8, 2008 Do the same extracurricular activities as her? -- Posted by Anonymous at 11:13 pm on Nov. 8, 2008 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 11:10 pm on Nov. 8, 2008 It's really up to you. I know her end of the story, because my father is the same way. He can't know I'm dating, he's better off not knowing it, and he would rather not know that I am. And for that reason, I can understand your girlfriend's side. Now... in terms of cancelling dates, if they are legitimate reasons (other priorities, parents interferring, etc), then I say you have no grounds to take action on. I'm a strong believer in not having a relationship affect other priorities that you may have (such as other extra curricular activities). While it's important to have a balance, sometimes you have to deal with it. Is it possible to keep going? That's up to you and her. You CAN make it work. My boyfriend and I were long distance for 9 months, and in that time, I saw him once for two weeks and once for two days. And for about two months, I could only see him once or twice a week... and these days work and school make us rarely see each other as well. We can work it out, so it's possible. But it takes patience and commitment. You can bring it up and talk to her about it, but if she can't change it, then you either accept it, or you move on, right? Communication is key. Talking is one of the best steps to solving a problem, and who knows, it may help things out. But if you can't find a way around it, then when you DO see each other once or twice a week, just cherish that time together and make it count :). wow. best advice i've gotten from anyone.. thankss a million =) -- Posted by blakely 2008 at 11:41 pm on Nov. 8, 2008 aww...i dnt thynk yall well work out...yall need to spend more tyme 2-gedda or its not goin to work