-- Posted by wingedmisery at 11:13 am on Nov. 9, 2008 My girlfriend and i have been together for 8 months and she has never gone down on me. I am ok with it, I have accepted that fact. I am not complaining, but I was wondering if anyone else's partner doesn't go down on them? (we are both women so it's kind of a big deal) -- Posted by angelbaby01 at 11:14 am on Nov. 9, 2008 oral sex rocks!!!   -- Posted by Dawn Fire at 11:15 am on Nov. 9, 2008 i dont the idea kinda freaks me out...so i dont blame her -- Posted by Radioactivv at 11:15 am on Nov. 9, 2008 Maybe she is just nervous. My ex boyfriend never went down on me when we were dating. -- Posted by YoureCrashing at 11:17 am on Nov. 9, 2008 It might take along time, I've been in that situation. Maybe she's just not on that level of trust with you yet. -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 11:18 am on Nov. 9, 2008 I really don't let him do it very often anymore, but I like the fact that he's willing to do it if I wanted him to.  I don't think it's fair that you will go down on her, she probably loves it and wants you to as well, but then won't go down on you.   I think you have some issues to work out if you want this relationship to be a long-lasting one, and this is one of those issues.  Talk to her, get her to try it, and if she still doesn't, then either withhold sex from her or keep going as you are until you just get to fed up with her stubborness and you two fight. -- Posted by newbie69 at 11:19 am on Nov. 9, 2008 Maybe she thinks ur not ready.. or she could be a lil shy to do it.. I think you should have a lil talk with her about it. try to find out why shes not doin anything.. -- Posted by wingedmisery at 11:20 am on Nov. 9, 2008 Quote: from 2kewl4u2know at 11:18 am on Nov. 9, 2008 I really don't let him do it very often anymore, but I like the fact that he's willing to do it if I wanted him to.  I don't think it's fair that you will go down on her, she probably loves it and wants you to as well, but then won't go down on you.   I think you have some issues to work out if you want this relationship to be a long-lasting one, and this is one of those issues.  Talk to her, get her to try it, and if she still doesn't, then either withhold sex from her or keep going as you are until you just get to fed up with her stubborness and you two fight. She doesn't like when i go down on her so I don't really do it. Sometimes I really want to so I do, but it's not very often. -- Posted by 101hereicome at 11:23 am on Nov. 9, 2008 Quote: from Dawn Fire at 11:15 am on Nov. 9, 2008 i dont the idea kinda freaks me out...so i dont blame her But then why is she with her then-you're straight so you wouldn't like it I suppose. -- Posted by Scottrick at 11:24 am on Nov. 9, 2008 Talk to her about it. That's all you can do. Maybe it's just not something she likes to do. -- Posted by beatnik at 1:17 pm on Nov. 9, 2008 so what do you do? ...scissor? -- Posted by brat4life at 3:47 pm on Nov. 9, 2008 well you could talk to her about it? and see whats up.... -- Posted by JennyColada at 1:31 am on Nov. 13, 2008 I have never had a partner, male or female, who I have not performed oral sex on or who has not done so to me. I would personally find that a bit odd myself, and probably be a bit unhappy about it. -- Posted by schoon at 10:53 am on Nov. 13, 2008 Quote: from angelbaby01 at 2:14 pm on Nov. 9, 2008 oral sex rocks!!! way to make her feel bad -- Posted by sparetime at 1:04 pm on Nov. 13, 2008 Well if you can't discuss everything with your partner than your relationship needs work.  I don't see her not going down on you as a problem (Frustrating, yes) but i see the fact that you ask a forum of strangers rather than your girlfriend to be a rather large problem.