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-- Posted by Anonymous at 9:10 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Last night my best friend came over like he does most nights but the past few, we'd been like getting closer and touching each others turn on points.

We're the closest people to eachother and we want a future together but don't want to be together now because we thing we're too young and don;t want to ruin things. So we were gonna see new people and he recently got together with this girl from my school. I don't have a problem with this really but occasionally I do get a little jealous.

The thing is last night we were touching eachother more and more til we took off eachothers tops, I gave him a handjob and then we were going to have sex. But just as he was going to put it in me, we heard my parents come past and instantly stopped. We got dressed and he just sat down on my bed and said he felt so bad.

After he'd gone, he text me later saying that he was such a bad boyfriend and his girlfriend wouldn't ever do anything to hurt him. I feel really bad too and we just agreed we'd stay away from that side of things whilst he has a girlfriend.

We both feel really guilty but really don't know whether to tell his girlfriend or just forget it ever happened. What do you think?


-- Posted by RahRahReplica at 9:13 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Don't ruin their relationship because of your own jealousy/needs/selfishness.

If he REALLY liked you then he's break up with her and be with you.

Sucks, but just leave it.


-- Posted by babecakes at 9:13 am on Nov. 16, 2008

i think..you guys are fucked up. too young??? u gave hima  hanf job. just tell him u want to be with him.


-- Posted by Chasey at 9:13 am on Nov. 16, 2008

I'd say just forget it happened


-- Posted by hoddybuddy at 9:14 am on Nov. 16, 2008

oh my gawd, if i were u i would wait a week and see if u forget and if u don't tell her!


-- Posted by liveone555 at 9:14 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Forget it ever happened if your the only 2 that know.. Then just leave it...


-- Posted by zamrambo at 9:15 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Realize what you guys have and quit skipping around it, trying to avoid it cause you're too young.  If there's something there, act on it.  Quit playing it safe.  What if another girl latches on to him?  Then he could be gone forever.


-- Posted by Monroe at 9:16 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Quote: from RahRahReplica at 9:13 am on Nov. 16, 2008


Don't ruin their relationship because of your own jealousy/needs/selfishness.

If he REALLY liked you then he's break up with her and be with you.

Sucks, but just leave it.



This.

Plus, if you're too young to be together, but you're not too young to give him a handjob?

Right.


-- Posted by Anonymous at 9:20 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Quote: from RahRahReplica at 9:13 am on Nov. 16, 2008


Don't ruin their relationship because of your own jealousy/needs/selfishness.

If he REALLY liked you then he's break up with her and be with you.

Sucks, but just leave it.


That makes it sound like its all my fault when it wasn't >.< and I don't expect you to understand the situation between us because you'd have to know a LOT more. And I'm 14 he's 16.

x


-- Posted by Hi Jack at 9:20 am on Nov. 16, 2008

i think if you both like each other and you're holding bak till you're older it'll make you further apart than if you broke up. go for it while you can. and he's living a lie with a gf if he knows that he wants you when you're older. just get together already.


-- Posted by RahRahReplica at 9:23 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Quote: from Anonymous at 5:20 pm on Nov. 16, 2008


Quote: from RahRahReplica at 9:13 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Don't ruin their relationship because of your own jealousy/needs/selfishness.  

 If he REALLY liked you then he's break up with her and be with you.  

 Sucks, but just leave it.


That makes it sound like its all my fault when it wasn't >.< and I don't expect you to understand the situation between us because you'd have to know a LOT more. And I'm 14 he's 16.

x


When did I ever make it sound like it was your fault?

Yes, he likes you. He's attracted to you. But he doesn't like you enough to be with you EXCLUSIVELY. He realised he made a mistake by cheating on her.

Let him be with the girl. Move on. Rise above it. He was just using you for sex, you don't want to be with someone like that, do you?

And also 14 is FAR too young for sex. Your body hasn't finished growing yet not to mention the maturity.


-- Posted by zamrambo at 9:33 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Quote: from cheeseyitem at 9:20 am on Nov. 16, 2008


i think if you both like each other and you're holding bak till you're older it'll make you further apart than if you broke up. go for it while you can. and he's living a lie with a gf if he knows that he wants you when you're older. just get together already.

this is exactly what I'm saying.  why avoid it, that's bullshit.


-- Posted by Anonymous at 9:37 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Quote: from RahRahReplica at 9:23 am on Nov. 16, 2008


Quote: from Anonymous at 5:20 pm on Nov. 16, 2008

Quote: from RahRahReplica at 9:13 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Don't ruin their relationship because of your own jealousy/needs/selfishness.

  If he REALLY liked you then he's break up with her and be with you.

  Sucks, but just leave it.


 

 That makes it sound like its all my fault when it wasn't >.< and I don't expect you to understand the situation between us because you'd have to know a LOT more. And I'm 14 he's 16.  

 x


When did I ever make it sound like it was your fault?

Yes, he likes you. He's attracted to you. But he doesn't like you enough to be with you EXCLUSIVELY. He realised he made a mistake by cheating on her.

Let him be with the girl. Move on. Rise above it. He was just using you for sex, you don't want to be with someone like that, do you?

And also 14 is FAR too young for sex. Your body hasn't finished growing yet not to mention the maturity.


Again, you don't understand the situation. We've been through shit after shit after shit and the only reason we're still standing is because we've had eachother. We tried to be together before but because we wanted something more serious we didn't want to mess up our chances by being too young. We see eachother more than we see anyone else and we're always talking about the future and that everything will be how it should be then. And now you'll all probably think I'm a stupid little girl and I don't blame you I know how it seems. Sorry for kinda having a go at you didn't really mean for it to come acoss like that.

x


-- Posted by RahRahReplica at 9:40 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Either you're too young [you are]. He's worried about child protection laws etc. Or you aren't actually mature enough - seriously two years is a lot especially at that age.

Or

If he really, REALLY liked your wouldn't it have gone somewhere stable by now? I know you two want to wait. But who knows where you'll be in two years?

TWO YEARS.

Long bloody time. Don't hang on to what may not be there later.


-- Posted by Anonymous at 9:45 am on Nov. 16, 2008

Quote: from RahRahReplica at 9:40 am on Nov. 16, 2008


Either you're too young [you are]. He's worried about child protection laws etc. Or you aren't actually mature enough - seriously two years is a lot especially at that age.  

Or

If he really, REALLY liked your wouldn't it have gone somewhere stable by now? I know you two want to wait. But who knows where you'll be in two years?

TWO YEARS.

Long bloody time. Don't hang on to what may not be there later.


I agree I'm worried about losing him and things not turning out how we want them but he's just everything to me. We live on the same road and with hosue prices at the moment neither of us are going anywhere for sure >.< It's already been 6 months since we decided all that and things haven't really changed so I'm holding on to that fact "/

x


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