-- Posted by Conniie at 4:47 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 Ummm im 16 and i lost it a while ago but i rly needed some good advice on how to have good sex.. like i really dont know if i can talk about this here but i just rly need help on how to be like great in bed -- Posted by lostwitness at 5:41 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 There are many good self-help books you can buy. Browse around amazon and you might find something that helps you out. Watch porn and get some ideas. Masturbate and self-explore Trust that your boyfriend loves you and enjoys having sex with you, and explore your sexuality with him... and don't be hard on yourself... just loosen up.