Pages: 1 2 3 4  Next -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 11:47 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 I just found out I am pregnant yesterday. It is horrible, I just got on birth control this month... I guess I was one month too soon eh? Well anyways I am a little over 4 weeks along, I am scared, nervous, and I want to just go to sleep... and never wake up.  I just need some advice, from the respectable teen mothers on this site.   Call me a whore and you will be reported, and anyways try not to be such an asshole right now, I already have the whole world crashing onto my shoulders. I don't know how to tell my mom. I want to abort it, but I don't think I could live with myself afterwards. Help me, please. -- Posted by iKnowUwantME at 11:48 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 how old are you? seriously, not trying to be rude -- Posted by lucid dreams19 at 11:49 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 well your gonna have to deal with it and just face up to it or abort it ur choice -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 11:50 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from iKnowUwantME at 12:48 am on Nov. 18, 2008 how old are you? seriously, not trying to be rude I am 16 years old. I live on my own, and I have been for months. I work full time, and I am getting my GED. -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 11:50 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from shesallithinkabout at 12:49 am on Nov. 18, 2008 well your gonna have to deal with it and just face up to it or abort it ur choice Well if you can't give advice you fucking idiot, then don't post at all. -- Posted by sykexl at 11:52 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from xsharpi at 11:50 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from iKnowUwantME at 12:48 am on Nov. 18, 2008 how old are you? seriously, not trying to be rude   I am 16 years old.   I live on my own, and I have been for months.   I work full time, and I am getting my GED. Not to sound rude but you really should consider the baby. How could you possibly afford to give it proper care being that young, working full time without even graduating highschool? I don't know your reasons but that alone says a lot about your ability to commit. It's a good thing you said you are at least thinking about an abortion. Perhaps adoption may be something to look into if you really think you won't get over it. -- Posted by lucid dreams19 at 11:52 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from xsharpi at 1:50 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from shesallithinkabout at 12:49 am on Nov. 18, 2008 well your gonna have to deal with it and just face up to it    or abort it    ur choice Well if you can't give advice you fucking idiot, then don't post at all. no im sorry if i sounded rude but I just mean that you dont really have any options, your gonna have to tell your parents evenutally right cuz tehy will notice sooner or later, so really I dont think there is a good way to tell them your pregnant you really have to just come out with it. I understnad y you wouldnt want an abortion. -- Posted by maceyface at 11:53 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 abort it. i've seen you around. not mature enough. -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 11:54 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from shesallithinkabout at 12:52 am on Nov. 18, 2008 no im sorry if i sounded rude but I just mean that you dont really have any options, your gonna have to tell your parents evenutally right cuz tehy will notice sooner or later, so really I dont think there is a good way to tell them your pregnant you really have to just come out with it. I understnad y you wouldnt want an abortion. Well I am simply looking on advice on HOW to tell her, I know I will have to tell her... I just don't know how too yet. -- Posted by misssmadejavuu at 11:54 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 I'm not a teen mother but. I know you are only about 16, I think. I know I could never live with myself if I had an abortion, I also know I would not be able to  have the child and then give it up. You have to think about what is best for you right now, and what would be best for the child. It is a hard decision to make but it is one you will have to make. A lot of girls get pregnant when they are young, and have the child and raise it just fine, a lot of girls get pregnant when they are young and have an abortion and go on with life, some regret it. Some have children and give them up for adoption and never look back.   I have been in this situation before, luckily I miscarried and never had to make the decision.   If you decide to have this child would you have help from your boyfriend, his family, your family, and friends.   You are not the only one responsible for brining the child up, maybe your mom will be mad, but she will get over it.   I hope I helped even a little bit, I know this is shocking news to you, but everything will work out in the end, it always does, you will be able to make it work, no matter what you decide to do. Edit: Are you positive you are pregnant? If you aren't 100% positive I wouldn't tell anyone until you are. -- Posted by Joep0113 at 11:55 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 My vote goes for abort unless you want to end up in debt and being helplessly poor for the next few decades. -- Posted by lostwitness at 11:55 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Do you have friends you are close with that you can trust to help you out with this? If so talk to them and make a personal decision. Either you'll have an abortion or you'll keep the baby. If you take the easy route of having an abortion you can also avoid telling your mom by going for the medical appointments by yourself. Well actually it isn't the easy route... that was stupid. There probably will be problems emotionally accepting that you had to make such a decision. A counselor could help you work out any unresolved emotions in this case. If you decide to have the baby you'll just have to talk to your mom from the heart and be genuinely honest and open. Then work hard with the people around you to make it work. There is no need to be overwhelmed (easier said than done I know) -- you just have to accept you are in a difficult situation and make the best decision you possibly can and LIVE with it... don't fight with what is. Good luck. -- Posted by kaylalynn2008 at 11:55 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 i'm not a teen mom, but if you want my input, you can pm me! -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 11:56 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 12:53 am on Nov. 18, 2008 abort it. i've seen you around. not mature enough. And I have seen you too, not once saying a nice thing, not once being a decent human fucking being. Why don't you fucking realize that you don't know me, and couldn't possibly know ANYONE simply through a computer idiot. -- Posted by misssmadejavuu at 11:57 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from xsharpi at 11:56 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 12:53 am on Nov. 18, 2008 abort it. i've seen you around. not mature enough. And I have seen you too, not once saying a nice thing, not once being a decent human fucking being. Why don't you fucking realize that you don't know me, and couldn't possibly know ANYONE simply through a computer idiot. :) She got told. -- Posted by maceyface at 11:57 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from xsharpi at 11:56 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 12:53 am on Nov. 18, 2008 abort it. i've seen you around. not mature enough. And I have seen you too, not once saying a nice thing, not once being a decent human fucking being. Why don't you fucking realize that you don't know me, and couldn't possibly know ANYONE simply through a computer idiot. you really just proved my point doll. that baby is in for some shitty times if you decide to pop it out. -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 11:58 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from Joep0113 at 12:55 am on Nov. 18, 2008 My vote goes for abort unless you want to end up in debt and being helplessly poor for the next few decades. You're an idiot. It's not just me, my boyfriend will help me. He is currently taking courses right now, and will get a job sooner then later. Don't doubt my fucking capabilities. -- Posted by CaliKevin at 11:58 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 I'm sorry to here about this, and you've been put into a really tough spot here.  Have you ever thought about what you would do in this situation before?  Do you have any idea which side you're leaning towards, keeping it or getting rid of it? You're going to need to let your boyfriend know a.s.a.p. so you two can talk about your options.  You might want to look into donating the fetus to stem cell research, should you choose not to have it.   If you truly feel you could not live with yourself afterwards, then don't do it...  But you really need to consider the option.  If you want to talk, feel free to PM me or chat on AIM. -- Posted by SweeterThanChocolate at 11:58 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 I think you're going to have to be brave and just sit down and tell your mum what's going on.  I know it won't be nice, and you will be a bit scared telling her, and yes, she will probably go mad initially, and call you stupid, but she will calm down.  And once she calms down, she will help you deal with the problem. You're quite early in the pregnancy, so that's good, you have quite a few options open to you.  But it's way too complex and emotionally demanding to try and work through it alone, especially when you're 16.   Hopefully, you and your mum and your Dr can all sit together, and talk through a few things/options open to you.  With their support, you should be able to work out what the best way forward FOR YOU is going to be. A baby is a huge commitment - for years and years.  It is not only a financial commitment, but an emotional one as well.  No longer is it just you, there's someone else to worry about, to feed, to clothe, to protect, to educate.  If you're up to, ready and committed to doing this, is one of the things you need to talk about, and ascertain. Good luck, and I am sure once you have your mum on side, things will be a lot easier to sort out. -- Posted by lucid dreams19 at 11:59 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from xsharpi at 1:54 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from shesallithinkabout at 12:52 am on Nov. 18, 2008 no im sorry if i sounded rude    but I just mean that you dont really have any options, your gonna have to tell your parents evenutally right cuz tehy will notice sooner or later, so really I dont think there is a good way to tell them your pregnant you really have to just come out with it.    I understnad y you wouldnt want an abortion. Well I am simply looking on advice on HOW to tell her, I know I will have to tell her... I just don't know how too yet. well honestly I just think you have to be straight with her and jsut firmly tell her that your pregnant and your going to keep it, and that thisis what you want. I wish i could hlep more but i dont have much experiennce with this stuff lol -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 11:59 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 12:57 am on Nov. 18, 2008 you really just proved my point doll. that baby is in for some shitty times if you decide to pop it out. I really didn't. If you don't have advice, please just leave me the hell alone. I am really in no mood to discuss with an idiot, over the internet, my maturity levels. Thanks. -- Posted by maceyface at 11:59 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from misssmadejavuu at 11:57 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from xsharpi at 11:56 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 12:53 am on Nov. 18, 2008 abort it. i've seen you around. not mature enough.    And I have seen you too, not once saying a nice thing, not once being a decent human fucking being. Why don't you fucking realize that you don't know me, and couldn't possibly know ANYONE simply through a computer idiot. :) She got told. you should get pregnant, it'll give you an excuse to do something besides beg your parents to hang out with your boyfriend. -- Posted by roflfuckyou at 11:59 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 if i were you i would abort it, but it's entirely your decision, but just know that no one would hate you for getting an abortion, and at the end of the day you have to look after you, and if this baby will reduce your life happiness and such, then do the right thing. if you are less  happy when you have the baby then that will result in affecting the baby. on another note, telling your mum would be hard, but i suggest just sitting down with her and having a heart to heart. she went through the same thing when she found out about you.. just probably not at such a young age. i'm sure she will understand and help you through this. if you decide to keep the baby, there are always places like planned parenthood to talk to about it and get advice. don't let other people pressure you into keeping it or aborting it, make your decision yourself. also remember you can also have it and give it up for adoption, but i think that might be harder to live with, knowing there is a kid out there who doesn't know who it's biological parents are, but i guess it isn't the end of the world, other people have been through it. hope that helped a little. feel free to pm me if you would like to talk about it a lot of my friends have gone through this :) EDIT: fuck sorry i keep misspelling things -- Posted by iconoclast at 11:59 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 2:57 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from xsharpi at 11:56 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 12:53 am on Nov. 18, 2008 abort it. i've seen you around. not mature enough.    And I have seen you too, not once saying a nice thing, not once being a decent human fucking being. Why don't you fucking realize that you don't know me, and couldn't possibly know ANYONE simply through a computer idiot. you really just proved my point doll. that baby is in for some shitty times if you decide to pop it out. anyone who calls someone a doll is fucking lame -- Posted by theboxman at 12:00 am on Nov. 18, 2008 generally they don't give bc until after you have a test to make sure you are not pregnant and then they tell you to wait until after your next period.  So are you telling us you got tested, where not pregnant, got knocked up, had a period and then started the pill? -- Posted by Joep0113 at 12:01 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from xsharpi at 11:58 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from Joep0113 at 12:55 am on Nov. 18, 2008 My vote goes for abort unless you want to end up in debt and being helplessly poor for the next few decades.     You're an idiot. It's not just me, my boyfriend will help me. He is currently taking courses right now, and will get a job sooner then later. Don't doubt my fucking capabilities. At least im not the idiot expecting another idiot in 9 months Hate to be the guy to throw facts at you but the overwhelming majority of people who have kids out of wedlock AND under 18 ends in splitting up. Enjoy it while it lasts -- Posted by misssmadejavuu at 12:01 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from theboxman at 12:00 am on Nov. 18, 2008 generally they don't give bc until after you have a test to make sure you are not pregnant and then they tell you to wait until after your next period.  So are you telling us you got tested, where not pregnant, got knocked up, had a period and then started the pill? Not really, at planned parenthood I got the pill with out taking a pregnancy test or having a pelvic exam, I just had to agree to have a pelvic exam in the next 3 months. Also on some brands of the pill you can start whenever. -- Posted by 0h h3ll n0 at 12:02 am on Nov. 18, 2008 I'm sorry! I am not a mother but I know if I were to get pregnant I wouldn't be able to get an abortion (though I certainly do not look down on those that do get one!). If you feel it is something you are unsure on/will regret then it could be the biggest mistake you will ever make. Are you dating the guy? Do you think he would stick by you if you choose to keep it? I definitely think speaking to your mum may help you. You are really young but plenty of other girls have kids at that age and cope fine. Whatever you decide, will hopefully be the best decision for you! -- Posted by blufindr at 12:03 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Take your time to really seriously consider the decision of what to do with your child. In my personal opinion, I do not believe you should have this child. However, if you do choose to have an abortion, please make sure it's something that you do want and not just something you did out of desperation. -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 12:03 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from misssmadejavuu at 12:54 am on Nov. 18, 2008 I'm not a teen mother but. I know you are only about 16, I think. I know I could never live with myself if I had an abortion, I also know I would not be able to have the child and then give it up. You have to think about what is best for you right now, and what would be best for the child. It is a hard decision to make but it is one you will have to make. A lot of girls get pregnant when they are young, and have the child and raise it just fine, a lot of girls get pregnant when they are young and have an abortion and go on with life, some regret it. Some have children and give them up for adoption and never look back. I have been in this situation before, luckily I miscarried and never had to make the decision. If you decide to have this child would you have help from your boyfriend, his family, your family, and friends. You are not the only one responsible for brining the child up, maybe your mom will be mad, but she will get over it. I hope I helped even a little bit, I know this is shocking news to you, but everything will work out in the end, it always does, you will be able to make it work, no matter what you decide to do. Edit: Are you positive you are pregnant? If you aren't 100% positive I wouldn't tell anyone until you are. I am glad you can understand. I don't want it. I mean, maybe later in life, but not now. I can't abort it, I have already been on the verge of killing myself and honest to god, that would push me over the edge. I can't give it up for adoption. I just can't. Yeah everyone is being supportive, that still doesn't change the fact I am scared and nervous, and fuck I just wish I was hit by a car or something so it would save me the trouble. I am 100% sure. I took 3 tests, 2 at home, both were positive, and 1 at Planned Parenthood. I even have already sceduled a prenatal doctor visit for Dec. 12. I have been reading up, I quit smoking, and been taking my prenatal vitamins. Pages: 1 2 3 4  Next