-- Posted by Anonymous at 12:05 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Okay so my ex boyfriend is currently engaged but we still both have feelings for each other. Well we were hanging out at the bar one night while his fiance was at her moms house a few states away.. We both were drinking and I got plastered, he was still up and going from what I hear.. well i don't remember much other then going outside.. when i wake up the next morning i'm in his bed... and now I am pregnant, do i tell him and possibly ruin his engagemnt.. it was never my intention to go home with him.. and I feel horrible about it.. I kind of feel used   people say he wasn't nearly as drunk as I was, did he use me :( -- Posted by 9 Volt at 12:08 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Holy shit...you need to tell him. You're fucking PREGNANT. Thats something you can't hide unless you're incredibly fat. AND its a life changing thing as well. You need to tell him, engagement or not. -- Posted by Anonymous at 12:11 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from 9 Volt at 2:08 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Holy shit...you need to tell him. You're fucking PREGNANT. Thats something you can't hide unless you're incredibly fat. AND its a life changing thing as well.   You need to tell him, engagement or not. I feel so used and I feel horrible about going home with him.. does it sounded like he just used me? -- Posted by nik1 at 12:30 am on Nov. 18, 2008 You feel used?   How do you think he might feel.....used by you to get pregnant to head off the wedding? Perfect situation for an abortion in my opinion.  Discuss the pregnancy with him.  He was 50% of the act.  Be rational, not emotional about it.  If the other girl is lucky she will find out about the jerk before she walks the aisle. -- Posted by sidekick k at 12:36 am on Nov. 18, 2008 the first thing i would do is tell him, then contemplate on whether you should keep the baby or not.