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-- Posted by Anonymous at 11:43 am on Nov. 18, 2008
My best guy friend and I have been friends for the past 2 and a half years since my sophomore year of college. I've had crushes on him off and on the enitre time I've known him, but I've never done anything about it because I've always been kind of shy around guys. Now I'm graduating in May, and I really don't want to miss my chance...that is if I even have a chance with him. We both live fairly close to each other, so even after I graduate, I'll still be able to see him and talk to him all the time, but once school ends for me, I'm afraid that it would be harder to start a relationship if he ended up being interested. I'm thinking about 'making a move', but I don't know how he feels about me, and I don't want to mess up our friendship if he's not interested. So I'm trying to figure out what to do. I'm crazy about him, and I have no idea where he stands on the possibility of an 'us'. I'm not very good at flirting, but I do try to do things like make sure I have good eye contact with him, and maybe touch his arm when I talk to him. Sometimes when we see each other we call each other names like cutie and sweetie and precious and things like that. He tells me he loves me whenever we hang up from talking or we are saying goodbye from hanging out. He greets me with hugs the majority of the time, and whenever he sits next to me, he either puts his arm around me, rubs my back, or lays his head on my shoulder. We can talk about things that are going on in our lives including the things we wouldn't necessarily tell other people. I don't know if those are just-friends things or if they are signs that he may be interested in more. I guess what I'm asking is: Does it sound like he may be interested? Should I 'make a move' or wait to see if he does? And if I am the one making the move, how should I go about it so that it doesn't scare him/mess up the friendship if he isn't interested?
-- Posted by McMuffin at 11:45 am on Nov. 18, 2008
Surely deep down, you have at least an inkling of whether he has any romantic feelings for you or not. You know, that gnawing inside. Listen to it, it's usually right.
-- Posted by Arrow at 11:47 am on Nov. 18, 2008
oh yeah u need to let him kno u feel this way.
-- Posted by crazyrugger at 11:51 am on Nov. 18, 2008
well if your not sure if he likes you take a look at how he acts around other girls. does he act the same way around you or does he act different (in a good way)? if he only acts the way he does around you then id say yes if he does that to most of his girlfriends you might have to dig alittle deeper as for making a move, just go for it. tell him you wanna talk and lay it on the line. if that scares you then maybe e-mail him or call. heres something i learned youll never know until you go for it and even if he says no the sun will still come up tomorrow and you wont have died by rejection. so go for it
-- Posted by kaylar28 at 4:41 pm on Nov. 18, 2008
he sounds like hes interested but if hes like that around other girls to i would be a bit more careful, or try to notice things that he only does with u and stuff i know your probably going to be nervous as hell..but just go for it and tell him:) or kiss him or something and see where it goes! but i go by this saying "expect the worst and hope for the best" it sounds kinda tough and mean..but i noticed it sometimes prepares you better for any sort of outcome
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