-- Posted by Enishi at 9:22 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Hi, I haven't been on the boards for a while but i'm really in a screwed up situation and could use some help! Here's my story: Ok, basicly I found that one girl that I believe is truly for me, highschool sweathearts and all, I was and am still so in love with her. Things got complicated when school finished, she wants to stay in Costa Rica and study medicine and I have to go to the Philippines (on the other side of the world)  and run a website design company with my brother while I study computer science. Everything was perfect until I told her about my plans, she became so cold and just ignored my needs. We got into a fight, she told me that she would forget me as soon as I left...make a long story short, I ended up getting drunk and made out with a another girl, next morning I called her and was honest and she dumped me. -- Posted by I like tuhtles at 9:23 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 inb42girls1cup -- Posted by Anonymous Chris at 9:25 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from I like tuhtles at 9:23 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 inb42girls1cup This thread did not deliver. -- Posted by Enishi at 9:26 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 I was always there for her and always fought to keep it together but in a moment of weakness i screwed it up, she forgave me. But said that the reason she dumped me was because I was leaving and she didn't want to be with me anymore...since I became temporary. I was so hurt, I never talked to her again, it's been the longest and loneliest 3 months of my life. -- Posted by hi289 at 9:26 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 wats inb stand 4 -- Posted by rufoo at 9:27 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Not much of a choice is there anymore ? She dumped you. What else can you do? You're halfway around the world and sadly its most likely shes been looking on another man . Move on, respect her for her decision. -- Posted by Enishi at 9:27 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous Chris at 9:25 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from I like tuhtles at 9:23 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 inb42girls1cup This thread did not deliver. Here is the thing, I started going out with this other girl, turned out to be her friend...one of her best friends actually... This other girl fell in love with me -- Posted by Enishi at 9:29 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from rufoo at 9:27 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Not much of a choice is there anymore ? She dumped you. What else can you do? You're halfway around the world and sadly its most likely shes been looking on another man . Move on, respect her for her decision. So my ex became jealous and just really hurt and one day she started bursting in tears, I still love her, and I know she is for me, and I know that the world wouldn't keep me from seeing her again. -- Posted by rufoo at 9:29 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from Enishi at 9:27 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous Chris at 9:25 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from I like tuhtles at 9:23 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 inb42girls1cup This thread did not deliver. Here is the thing, I started going out with this other girl, turned out to be her friend...one of her best friends actually... This other girl fell in love with me well go where your feelings take you bro. Its common sense. If this other girl fell in love with you, does she know that you're in a relationship? Do you love her so much that you'd break your current one just to get with her? -- Posted by Enishi at 9:30 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 So what I want to know is... should I try to be with the girl that I love but can't have...or should I take the girl that I like and can have. -- Posted by rufoo at 9:31 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 If its really impossible that you cant have the girl you love.. Then it might seem that she isnt for you. So go with the girl you like and "can have" -- Posted by Enishi at 9:32 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 "well go where your feelings take you bro. Its common sense. If this other girl fell in love with you, does she know that you're in a relationship? Do you love her so much that you'd break your current one just to get with her? " I am not in any relationship, I'm deciding between my ex and this new girl..my ex's best friend. -- Posted by qi at 9:32 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from hi289 at 9:26 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 wats inb stand 4 http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=inb4 -- Posted by warrior chick at 9:33 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Sounds like you don't really have a choice to choose from! -- Posted by Enishi at 9:35 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 I do have a choice...but I know that i can go back to my ex, she is dying to have me back..but I don't want the new girl to get hurt -- Posted by Enishi at 9:36 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Or if I go to the new girl..it'll kill my ex -- Posted by rufoo at 9:38 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from Enishi at 9:35 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 I do have a choice...but I know that i can go back to my ex, she is dying to have me back..but I don't want the new girl to get hurt if shes so dying to have you back , why she dump you --? Anyways Its ALL about how you feel. You cant let others choose for you. IF so, it'd be the most concrete answer "the new girl" -- Posted by Enishi at 9:39 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from rufoo at 9:38 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from Enishi at 9:35 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 I do have a choice...but I know that i can go back to my ex, she is dying to have me back..but I don't want the new girl to get hurt if shes so dying to have you back , why she dump you --? Anyways Its ALL about how you feel. You cant let others choose for you. IF so, it'd be the most concrete answer "the new girl" She dumped me outa pure impulse. I understand that the new girl is the best opcion...but I don't love her, I love the ex.