-- Posted by lorenextdoor at 5:52 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 I met a man a few months ago (on the internet).  He is from Egypt, 22, a college student.  I am 17, from the U.S., finishing high school this year.  I love this man more than anything.  We have been engaged for a couple months, but my parents don't approve.  We are both muslim, and do not believe in delaying marriages.  I'm sure that I want to marry this man - I trust him more than anyone.  We did plan to marry after I graduated, but I do not want to wait another half year.  I plan to go in December, over christmas break, WITHOUT my parents knowing.  I really don't want to come back either.   My fiance is still in college for another year, and I want to finish high school in Egypt.  Is this possible.  Also, I have money saved in banks, but under my mothers name also.  How can I protect this money if she tries to take it after I leave?  Also, how can I make sure my parents don't know that I bought the plane ticket?  What other precautions should I take? I'm sure of my decision, so don't dissuade me.  Please just give me advice.  This is the most important thing in the world to me.  Thank you for any helpful comments. -- Posted by Ndskewll at 5:54 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 This isn't going to work. Sorry. -- Posted by HeartofJuyoMk2 at 5:54 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 my advice would be to honor the wishes of your parents, as religion usually dictates. Whether or not you are ready to be married, it's impractical. -- Posted by mycuteFIEND at 5:54 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 Have you met this man you are in love with? -- Posted by The Last Magister at 5:54 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 Just wait to finish your HS education, if he wants to rush it that much, doesn't it make you wonder? -- Posted by catoman at 5:54 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 1 thing are u over 18? if not you can't legally marry -- Posted by neotreo at 5:54 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 it's possible, but you have to be emancipated. -- Posted by lorenextdoor at 5:55 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 I can in Egypt, marry.  He is willing to wait for me, but I don't want to. -- Posted by lingerie gurl at 5:56 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 Think about this, if he can't get a girl his own age, what would that mean? He has to go after girls much more younger, not as mature, and inexperienced in life. You are very impressionable. You go, you may never come back. You are probably making the biggest mistake in your life.   He can hurt you, possibly kill you, and no one will help you. You don't know this man! You only know what he wants you to know. If he was a reasonable man, he would have talked to your parents and figured out a way to go about the "relationship" in a approved way. Edit: BTW: He doesn't look 22 he looks 40 and fucking ugly. -- Posted by fedoragirl at 5:56 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 Ohhhh no.  Don't you watch Dr. Phil?!  This sounds like a terrible plan.  If he really wants you to be with him, he will come to you.  You should not under any circumstance put yourself in a situation as a minor where you can be that vulnerable.  I know what it's like to make very close connections via the internet but you truly have no way of really knowing this person.  Think about how patient you have to be when you make friends in person!  It takes a lifetime to get to know someone.   -- Posted by k14nk at 6:01 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 I can see this being on 20/20 if this actualy pulls threw. I highley suggest yyou dont pull threw. I'm just watching for your safety. -- Posted by AcidSilence at 6:15 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 Well... I would be upset if my parents dissaprove of something i really wanted. Im sure you are? I think if you wait and then at least tell them maybe the day your leaving [obviously you would have your plane ticket and everything already] then they may approve more. There is no way to protect the money that is in her name. Talk to the bank maybe. -- Posted by superfreak at 6:52 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 it is possable but you have to go through the emancipation procedings first or you cant buy your own plane ticket as far a sthe bank goes close the account and take the money with you so she cant take it then marry hom but finish high school and let him finish collage dont ruch it -- Posted by raza301 at 7:10 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 bad idea at least wait till high school and get him to come over where you are and meet your parents -- Posted by tell me again at 7:49 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 I don't think you can "finish high school in Egypt". Why are you so eager to leave before you finish high school? If you are serious about this relationship, it can wait another half a year. You are enrolled in a US school, and I doubt there are any ways to transfer that to Egypt in order to finish school there. You can't control money that is in someone else's name. The only way would be to start an account under your own name and either work for your own money or somehow get your parents to "give" you money. It'd be hard to get away with. This also means that you can't buy a plane ticket with your mum's money without her finding out. But if you do this with your own money (under your own account) then your parents don't have to know. One key thing is this though: How are you going to live in Egypt? What citizenship are you? And if you are not Egyptian, how are you going to find the means to live? Depending on this guy while in a tourist status is a really unsafe idea, EVEN IF this relationship is genuine at this point. Your post really shows that you haven't thought this through. I don't think you're ready for anything as dramatic as this. -- Posted by tell me again at 8:04 pm on Nov. 20, 2008 I read your other posts and see that you're of Middle Eastern background. Are you a US citizen or a Middle Eastern citizen? If the latter, you might be under M.E. law (I'm not sure about this), so just be aware of that. If this screws up before you are 18, you could be a in a lot of shit. Please wait until you are 18 so that you have some legal rights and can make a stand, especially if you really want to cut ties with your family (who currently have legal rights over you). In regards to your other post about having him get a US VISA - Yes it is extremely hard to get a US VISA from a non-english speaking country, because US is anal about national security after 9/11. He would need extensive backing for a work visa. Don't count on it ever happening. PM me if you want to talk in more detail. I know people are skeptical here but if you really need to get away from your parents and find a different life (by the sound of it), I'm on your side with finding a safe way to do it.