-- Posted by Anonymous at 7:52 pm on Nov. 23, 2008 I am 22 and kind of like a girl I met at youth group who's 14. I thought she could have been older from talking because she's mature and seems to be a good Christian. She thought I was younger because of me joking around and some guys at her school looking older. I look older because I really am though. I've been talking to her on the phone every few days and mentioned to her about hanging out on Saturday with others and she said sure. I have just been her friend and not shown her that I like her. She may be able to tell though.  Since she is 8 years younger than me I know I need to wait so I am thinking to just remain friends and hang out some times. If things work out well I would say in the future (2 years about) about being more than friends. What do you think? -- Posted by ManiacPenguins at 3:01 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Even in 2 years, when she is 16, it wouldn't be exactly socially acceptable for her to be going out with a 24 year old. Although, if she is mature enough, she could decide to bring the relationship to the next level. Just check your state laws on age of consent. But, since you are asking my opinion, I don't think it's acceptable at all. You'll be almost in your mid-20's, while she is hitting some of the peaks of her youth. She should be going out with guys closer to her age, if at all. -- Posted by amiee at 3:44 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 I think it's something you'll need to talk over with her. Honestly though, I would definitely wait a while. If you really do care for her this much then waiting, although difficult, would be better for you both in the long run. I don't think it'd be the best idea to approach her about your feelings right now because she's still incredibly young for that to be coming from a 22 year old. Continue just being her friend and see how things progress, but bear in mind that she's only 14 and you're a lot more mature than her in a great number of ways. She's still growing and becoming her own person and, whilst I won't deny that you're still doing the same, she's honestly very young and has a lot to experience emotionally. Stuff you've already experienced. I'm 19 now and I can say for absolutely definite that I'm a lot different from who I was when I was 14 and I think that, while a 14 year old can be incredibly mature, you're an adult. Finished high school, in the real world. Let her do the same and then, if you still feel the same, approach her about your feelings. I think it'd be only fair for you both if you waited until she was at least 16.