-- Posted by Anonymous at 9:11 am on Nov. 26, 2008 Okay so i've been with my boy-friend for now 3 months and i broke up with him yesterday because i have feelings for someone else. I care about him therefore i decided its not right to stay with him if im having these feelings for another guy, Do you think im doing the right thing? And one more question.. He's gone completely insane. Like saying hes nothing without me and he needs me and he doesn't want to live without me.... and please don't judge but he carved our names in his chest. I said don't judge cause thts something he would never do! Thts why im so worried...he a totally different person. How do i help him? -- Posted by Flikted001 at 9:12 am on Nov. 26, 2008 he loves you, and you dumped him because you think some other guy is cute? no. get back with him. -- Posted by Breanza at 9:12 am on Nov. 26, 2008 cry a river, build a bridge and get over it. -- Posted by Anonymous at 9:13 am on Nov. 26, 2008 Quote: from Breanza at 1:12 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 cry a river, build a bridge and get over it. It's kinda hard if you care about the well being of the other person?! -- Posted by Ftkatyowser at 9:15 am on Nov. 26, 2008 I've seen this before.  Tell someone with higher authority, just so he gets help.  you did the right thing, assuming that you don't have just a little crush and really like this other guy -- Posted by Anonymous at 9:19 am on Nov. 26, 2008 Quote: from Ftkatyowser at 1:15 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 I've seen this before. Tell someone with higher authority, just so he gets help. you did the right thing, assuming that you don't have just a little crush and really like this other guy I told his mom cause his mom and i are REALLY close an di can trust her with anything. she set up an appt for him at the homewood but he never showed for it. This is not like him. he would never purposely hurt himself and make suicidal threats. I just feel so bad...cause im the one who did this to him. -- Posted by Porkie at 9:20 am on Nov. 26, 2008 Quote: from Flikted001 at 5:12 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 he loves you, and you dumped him because you think some other guy is cute? no. get back with him. But if she dumped him, her heart's not really in the relationship. So if she gets back with this guy, she's going to be unhappy, and it's just pro-longing the hurt for him. Try and talk to him, seriously. Talk to him, like a real heart-to-heart and try to get him to open up. Be the one to comfort him; if you comfort him, he might feel better. Ask him why he's abusing himself and ask him what makes him think he's not going to love someone even more. I mean, I feel bad for him, because it sounds like he's taken it badly. But if you explain that he'll find someone who'll love him and care for him even more than you do, the relationship will be stronger and he won't have feelings for you, anymore. But it will take time before he can even think of being with someone else, let alone actually get with someone; so maybe tell him that too? I know it's strange coming from the person who dumped him; but I think it'll be easier to get 'comfort' from that person, than someone else, or no-one. -- Posted by Ftkatyowser at 9:20 am on Nov. 26, 2008 it's not your fault.  it really isn't.  the fact he's doing this now just proves that he wasn't mentally stable to begin with.  two of my friends have gone through this before =/ -- Posted by blessedbeaut8 at 9:23 am on Nov. 26, 2008 UGH, LOVE ISN'T REAL!! -- Posted by Zeuski at 9:24 am on Nov. 26, 2008 You definitely need to talk to some one of higher authority. I went through this a little under a year ago you need to make sure you both are safe. I know you care about his well being and everything but there comes a time when yours is more important than anyone elses and you have to worry about your self. -- Posted by Anonymous at 9:25 am on Nov. 26, 2008 Quote: from Porkie at 1:20 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 Quote: from Flikted001 at 5:12 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 he loves you, and you dumped him because you think some other guy is cute? no. get back with him. But if she dumped him, her heart's not really in the relationship. So if she gets back with this guy, she's going to be unhappy, and it's just pro-longing the hurt for him. Try and talk to him, seriously. Talk to him, like a real heart-to-heart and try to get him to open up. Be the one to comfort him; if you comfort him, he might feel better.   Ask him why he's abusing himself and ask him what makes him think he's not going to love someone even more. I mean, I feel bad for him, because it sounds like he's taken it badly. But if you explain that he'll find someone who'll love him and care for him even more than you do, the relationship will be stronger and he won't have feelings for you, anymore. But it will take time before he can even think of being with someone else, let alone actually get with someone; so maybe tell him that too? I know it's strange coming from the person who dumped him; but I think it'll be easier to get 'comfort' from that person, than someone else, or no-one. I do talk to him. But it's just a tear fest. I'd never seen him cry before and i new him for a long time even before we dated. I told him there will be other people and he says he doesn't want anyone else. I know he will eventually move on but theres no easy way to tell someone your breaking up with them because you like someone else. I cant stand to see him hurt. Is there any way to make it easier on him... and please dont think im not hurting either. i cant get snap my fingers and get over this boy, i just care about him enough to know that he deserves ALL of me not just half. -- Posted by hiddenfromlove91 at 9:29 am on Nov. 26, 2008 stop caring about what other people think about you and make yourself happy before you worry about everyone else. -- Posted by Ftkatyowser at 9:30 am on Nov. 26, 2008 There really isn't any way to do it.  Space and time are really the only things you can do. -- Posted by Breanza at 11:51 am on Nov. 26, 2008 i have a feeling if i left my boyfriend he would act similar or beg me to get back with him relentlessly. but i think that i'm emotionally deficet. -- Posted by NikkiInkz at 11:53 am on Nov. 26, 2008 This guy obviously cares about you, a lot, you're not in the wrong for leaving him. Instead, I think you did the right thing, he deserves to be with someone that wants to be with him, which I'm sure you know. He's hurt but will move on, you need to make sure that he doesn't harm himself but also make sure you don't give him the wrong impression. -- Posted by IMPALA at 4:16 pm on Nov. 27, 2008 Quote: from Breanza at 9:12 am on Nov. 26, 2008 cry a river, build a bridge and get over it. most pple aren't cunts -- Posted by theyareAs at 9:20 pm on Nov. 27, 2008 it seems that your at fault here. You should get back with him