-- Posted by blitzerdog at 9:48 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 This one girl is really obsessed with me. She's been trying to make plans with me ever since the day I started talking to her. I started talking to her because she was depressed and she was in one of my classes last year. I felt bad for her, so I thought I would be the better person and talk to her, and tell her if she ever needs anything to let me know. Basically, I was the only person to actually help her out during her hardships and be a friend for her while she needed the support. Well now, she likes me more than a friend. I do not find her attractive at all, but I dont want to tell her that because she has issues with depression and confidence as it is. -I've been getting out of the plans she's been trying to create by saying I have work. But that can only last for so long. My question to you guys is, What Should I tell her to stop trying to include me in her plans? (She wants to go clubbing with me this weekend, and I really don't want to go to with her.) -- Posted by TBMP at 9:49 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 actually i kinda wanna see what people's answers are im in a similar situation -- Posted by TruexZero at 9:49 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 Just tell her you don't want to go...? -- Posted by bigredron at 9:49 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 tell her u got a gf -- Posted by honeybee3333 at 9:49 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 Quote: from TruexZero at 9:49 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 Just tell her you don't want to go...? this -- Posted by LucidAssassin at 9:50 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 tell her you only like her as a friend. apparently that isnt hurtful since thats what girls say all of the times to reject nicely -- Posted by Tits McGee at 9:50 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 Tell her that you don't see her as anything more than a friend. If she gets upset, it's not your fault. You were being nice. You didn't force her to like you. -- Posted by RainbowKid92 at 9:52 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 fake your death.. gets em EVERY time...you'll see. she won't party with a dead person...or would she..? -- Posted by sub800 at 9:52 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 tell her you're exhausted possibly from sex with your gf -- Posted by taraxgoesxboom at 9:52 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 If you tell her you only feel for her as a friend it's going to hurt, but please do it, if you don't her feelings are going to get much stronger and when you finally have to break things off it's going to be much worse than if you just get it over with now. -- Posted by blitzerdog at 9:53 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 Quote: from taraxgoesxboom at 9:52 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 If you tell her you only feel for her as a friend it's going to hurt, but please do it, if you don't her feelings are going to get much stronger and when you finally have to break things off it's going to be much worse than if you just get it over with now. You have just basically described what's going to happen. =) -- Posted by lthomas at 9:53 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 don't lie to her, just explain to her how you feel about the situation but since she's sensitive say it in the nicest way possible of course! just tell her you dont feel the same way and you hope she hasnt gotten the wrong impression from you -- Posted by citigurl3 at 9:55 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 wow i dont know... iv been depressed and had self confidence issues for a long time.. i would enevr stalk a guy but serioulsy that would kill me... i think you should be honest with her.. but do it reeally gently and PRIVATELY. dont tell anyone..or if you already have...make sure you dont embarrass her.. you would feel really bad if she did something -- Posted by blufindr at 10:12 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 Tell her you're not interested. That being said, if she still doesn't get the message, get a friend to be your 'girlfriend' when she's around. -- Posted by ScandalousWench at 11:57 pm on Nov. 26, 2008 Definately don't lie. Tell her your not interested. If your kind in saying this it shouldn't really hurt her confidence. Just say something like "I think I might have given you the wrong impression, I enjoy our friendship but am not really interested in anything more." At least it works for me.