-- Posted by Anonymous at 8:48 am on Nov. 28, 2008 I like this boy a lot.  And frankly, I've heard conflicting things about him,  I am just not sure what to think. I know he amd his girlfriend recently broke up last month.  I really WANT to know what her side of the story is.  I am to the point that I don't realy care anymore becase it's not like we would be friends or anything. Should I IM or or Facebook message her?  Just say "hey you dont know me, but I have liked XXX and I wanna know what kind of guy he is. Should I quit while I'm ahead?" ORR...I have a friend who is good friends with this girl...but she also gossips a lot and will prolly tell my Crush as well... What should I do? -- Posted by Chasey at 8:49 am on Nov. 28, 2008 I think you should go for it. What's the worst that could happen, after all ? -- Posted by LittleMissHippie at 8:52 am on Nov. 28, 2008 I'm not sure...it could all go well but it could all backfire on you -- Posted by JessicaChace at 8:52 am on Nov. 28, 2008 you'll never know unless you try to find out -- Posted by La Motta at 8:54 am on Nov. 28, 2008 She'll slap you. -- Posted by Anonymous at 8:54 am on Nov. 28, 2008 Curious:  What would the worst case scenerio be if this went bad?  Would she tell the boy?  Or like would...she find out who I am?? If you were HER, how would you respond to an email or IM like that? -- Posted by LucidAssassin at 8:55 am on Nov. 28, 2008 id say its probably worth a shot -- Posted by thatgirlisacowboy21 at 8:57 am on Nov. 28, 2008 bad idea because if he finds out he'll want to know why you didnt just ask him -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 9:05 am on Nov. 28, 2008 Don't do it.  She's the ex so she's only going to have bad to say, especially that recently to the break up.  And you'll be giving her an opening to either harass or gossip more about you. If you aren't sure about this guy, find out for yourself, not through other people's biased opinions.