-- Posted by Luvme4eva at 4:59 pm on Nov. 30, 2008 My mother hasn't been a mother to me in the 15 years I have been on this Earth. It gives me every reason to resent her but, I don't anymore. Anytime she comes to my house, my niece runs to her and yells "grandma!"and when she does I get the worse thoughts. I know exactly what to say that would make her leave and never come back. I know exactly what to do that would make her regret ever thinking that I was too naive to understand. It sucks to say I'm jealous but I am. She's a great grandmother but when it comes to being a mother to any of her five kids, she just wasn't ready. I hate her for that. So, lately when she comes around I dont' speak unless she initiates a conversation and she thinks I'm being rude. Now, I'm afraid that she'll give up on me because she thinks that I gave up on her. I don't know how to accept her. -- Posted by SheMintsEclectic at 5:05 pm on Nov. 30, 2008 Just tell her how you feel sweetie. If you want a better relationship with your mom ask for it. She's not a mind reader but I'm sure she's guessed that she's hurting you and is probably her mind giving you the space you need to cope with that hurt. Let her know that you don't want to resent her anymore and try to start anew. I'm sure if she's learned to be a great grandmother she can learn to be a good mother to you too.