-- Posted by byebyebeautyful at 4:49 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 im really sick of this. im 19. my mom treats me like im 14. maybe even worse. she tries to control my every move, my every choice, my lifestyle even. for example: she wanted me to take an extra calculus class that i didnt want to or need to. she was screaming at me because i absolutely refused to sign up for it.... another example: she makes me pay about 55 a month for my phone line. i discovered that i can get a single line and pay 65 a month. when i told her this, she had a fit and started blackmailing me. (cuz if i did get my own line she wouldnt be able to watch who i talk to) now: she lets me take her car to school and work but she watches the speedometer like crazy and sometimes ill ditch school and chill with one of my friends that im "not allowed" to hang with, and this counts for about 70% of my friends (my mom is crazily racist too). TODAY i went to my friends house and now im being yelled at for my speedometer being 10 miles over what its supposed to be... how can i deal with this??? thanks to anyone who reads this and helps me.. and she doesnt make compromises with me or talk to me. just punishes. -- Posted by Lally at 4:49 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 If your 19, go move out -- Posted by See Me Now at 4:50 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Move out- get a job and your own place. She's crazy -- Posted by Everlongx at 4:51 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from byebyebeautyful at 4:49 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 im really sick of this. im 19. my mom treats me like im 14. maybe even worse. she tries to control my every move, my every choice, my lifestyle even. for example: she wanted me to take an extra calculus class that i didnt want to or need to. she was screaming at me because i absolutely refused to sign up for it.... another example: she makes me pay about 55 a month for my phone line. i discovered that i can get a single line and pay 65 a month. when i told her this, she had a fit and started blackmailing me. (cuz if i did get my own line she wouldnt be able to watch who i talk to) now: she lets me take her car to school and work but she watches the speedometer like crazy and sometimes ill ditch school and chill with one of my friends that im "not allowed" to hang with, and this counts for about 70% of my friends (my mom is crazily racist too). TODAY i went to my friends house and now im being yelled at for my speedometer being 10 miles over what its supposed to be... how can i deal with this??? thanks to anyone who reads this and helps me.. and she doesnt make compromises with me or talk to me. just punishes. Disown the bitch. -- Posted by MixedDelight at 4:51 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Move out already. You're 19? Live on res at your university. or get your own place. Show some initiative to get out of that controlling environment. -- Posted by Latin Muscle at 4:51 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Tell her to shut her trap. Slap that woman. Bitch needs to learn a lesson. -- Posted by g princess at 4:51 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 thats crazzy. what do you do when shes yelling at you and stuff? -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 4:52 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Try moving out.  If you can't do it on your own then move in with someone else (maybe even on campus?).  If it's that your mom is holding college tuition over your head or you need her car, then I guess you're stuck there until you can afford it on your own.  Until then, you just have to ignore it. -- Posted by JustaKid at 4:53 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 if i were u id be like fuck off cunt im 19 now and u cant control me no more bitchhh -- Posted by XsmilygirlX at 4:54 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 You need to move out.  Go stay with a friend or something. -- Posted by Zetsuai at 4:54 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 There isn't anything you can really do about her behavior. You could try and sit down with her and try reasoning. If that doesn't work, then maybe you and a friend could try and get a place together. -- Posted by byebyebeautyful at 4:54 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from 2kewl4u2know at 4:52 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Try moving out. If you can't do it on your own then move in with someone else (maybe even on campus?). If it's that your mom is holding college tuition over your head or you need her car, then I guess you're stuck there until you can afford it on your own. Until then, you just have to ignore it. i go to community college for now, im waiting to transfer in a year, then i can move out. im trying to do really well in school and i know ill just fuck it up if i get a job that gives too many hours, ill be stressed and worse off than now. i just wish htere was somehow to passify her from being like this to me -- Posted by surfergurl at 4:55 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 move out, if you need a car, borrow a friends..live on campus where she can't control you -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 4:57 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from byebyebeautyful at 6:54 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from 2kewl4u2know at 4:52 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Try moving out.  If you can't do it on your own then move in with someone else (maybe even on campus?).  If it's that your mom is holding college tuition over your head or you need her car, then I guess you're stuck there until you can afford it on your own.  Until then, you just have to ignore it. i go to community college for now, im waiting to transfer in a year, then i can move out. im trying to do really well in school and i know ill just fuck it up if i get a job that gives too many hours, ill be stressed and worse off than now. i just wish htere was somehow to passify her from being like this to me My mom isn't as bad as that, but she has a way of getting under your skin.  The most you can do while there is continue doing what you want and bear with it.  It's hard living under your parents' roof, even when you're an adult because you still have to live by their rules.  Like at my house, my brother (who is 24 and living in the basement) can't have girls in his room, and I (18) still can't stay the night at my boyfriend's when I'm home from college. It's annoying and frustrating, but they are still doing a lot and it's still their house.  Just remember, 1 more year.