-- Posted by kendall716 at 9:25 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Of relationships. In the past I let my hormones take over which made me think about things to much which made Alex and I get into fights because things would build up. What's the remedy to this? Being careless.  (Not careless about the relationship.. but not caring about the petty little annoyances) Honestly, it's not a bad thing. Especially since we're going to be living together. If something annoys me, I just tell him to leave me alone for a few minutes while I do something I enjoy (ie paint my nails, take a bubble bath, watch my favorite show) and when I get done he's sweet and I get over my petty annoyance. It's beautiful and I really feel no pent up anger.   I feel like I just discovered the key to life. And what is that?? Quit being such a damn girl! -- Posted by Aerie at 9:26 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Haha, I already do that, I leave when people piss me off. Or I kick them out. -- Posted by barnabas at 9:26 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 haha. nice. What a handy thing to figure out. Giving people space is super important. -- Posted by perfume cowboy at 9:26 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 maybe you two just aren't that compatible -- Posted by bigredron at 9:27 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 sounds like me. i get angry, yell at someone then walk away and im over it again in 2 minutes. -- Posted by holodeck87 at 9:27 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 That is amazing. I discovered this myself recently. It feels good doesn't it? Do things for you, ALWAYS. My uncle put it best when he said this: "Imagine that your heart is a jug of water. You are constantly pouring out this love for others... but if you don't take time to refill your jug, you're going to be empty pretty fast." -- Posted by autumn rae at 9:27 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 lmao that's great.. i'll have to try that. -- Posted by Aimforthehead at 9:29 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 The key to a successful relationship is not care about the relationship? Not much a relationship then in my opinion... -- Posted by kendall716 at 9:29 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from barnabas at 9:26 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 haha. nice. What a handy thing to figure out. Giving people space is super important. And you know what Carie, guys have known this all along. They've been keeping it from us! It's beautiful and I seriously feel liberated. I mean I still care about him but I don't feel the need to be petulant and argue.. Since i do care, I don't want to fight. And since I've figured this out.. we haven't It's great! -- Posted by kendall716 at 9:30 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from Aimforthehead at 9:29 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 The key to a successful relationship is not care about the relationship? Not much a relationship then in my opinion... That's not what I meant.   I meant to not care about the petty little things. As a girl, I've over-reacted in the past. I don't plan on doing that anymore. Of course I still care abotu him, I always will. Even if I do get mad. -- Posted by holodeck87 at 9:31 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from kendall716 at 9:29 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Since i do care, I don't want to fight. And since I've figured this out.. we haven't It's great! Don't count your blessings just yet? When did this all start? lol -- Posted by kendall716 at 9:32 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from perfume cowboy at 9:26 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 maybe you two just aren't that compatible You're just pessimistic. I love him, we are absolutely compatible. -- Posted by kendall716 at 9:33 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from holodeck87 at 9:31 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from kendall716 at 9:29 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Since i do care, I don't want to fight.    And since I've figured this out.. we haven't    It's great! Don't count your blessings just yet? When did this all start? lol A while back. We've been dating two years. long enough to have problems and fix them. -- Posted by Aimforthehead at 9:35 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from kendall716 at 9:30 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from Aimforthehead at 9:29 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 The key to a successful relationship is not care about the relationship? Not much a relationship then in my opinion...   That's not what I meant.       I meant to not care about the petty little things. As a girl, I've over-reacted in the past. I don't plan on doing that anymore. Of course I still care abotu him, I always will. Even if I do get mad. Well, I think it's good to care about small things but more to care about the person, that way you are for sure to make things better. But then again words are the cause of most fights(they usually have no meaning anyways, we just perceive them so), and yes I got that from that song "Enjoy the Silence". -- Posted by barnabas at 9:35 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Its true. Guys do know. I have a book you should read. PMing you now. -- Posted by kendall716 at 9:37 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Aimforthehead, I'm sure you're great with relationships your way. Sometimes caring about the small things is good for people, but in my case it's the worst thing. I get to stressed out. I seriously feel so...happy... right now just not caring, not losing sleep over dumb things. We are just happy. He's happy that I'm not always unhappy because I worry about petulant things. -- Posted by Aimforthehead at 9:38 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Just wondering...how do you just...'stop' caring? -- Posted by kendall716 at 9:41 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from Aimforthehead at 9:38 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Just wondering...how do you just...'stop' caring? It's like I said.. Instead of making a huge deal about it and sitting there thinking about it, I just do something i enjoy that takes my mind off of it. I watch a good show, or I paint my nails, read a magazine or take a bubble bath. And I've found that by doing that I just relax and then when I call Alex or he calls me we're absolutely fine. He's sweet and always makes sure I'm okay and happy. I mean half of the things I was getting upset over were completely ridiculous. A waste of my energy.