-- Posted by Anonymous at 12:21 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Im 19, im with my first girlfriend,`ever weve been together for 9 months. She on the other hand has had 2 serious relationships, lasting from 13-16 and 17-18, shes basically been in a serious relationship her entire mature/semi-mature life. Shes had sex with both of them. Sometimes it makes me feel bad because it feels like shes given away pieces of herself to other guys. We've talked about it extensively and she says our relationship is the most intense love shes felt because im more emotionally appealing to her than they were- she wore the pants in the other two relationships but in this one shes been completely overwhelmed by me and deeply in love. But ya, once again, sometimes it hurts, because shes my first and im hers after 2 other guys.... What are your guys thoughts on dating people who have been in love before. Some people say you should only worry about the now and the fact that theyre here with you now, and whats past is past, but i dont feel that way.... it hurts... -- Posted by Antigen at 12:22 am on Dec. 4, 2008 it should they gotta piece of her before but you'll get over it eventually when you realize she chose you someday sometime she will prove this to you trust mehze -- Posted by maceyface at 12:22 am on Dec. 4, 2008 dude get over it. but if that doesn't work, imagine how you would feel if she moved on to another guy like, next week. because, to those past two guys, you're the new guy. that's powerful. -- Posted by Neodymie at 12:23 am on Dec. 4, 2008 There's nothing you can do man. If you really love her it shouldn't matter. I can understand where you're coming from but it's just something you gotta let go. She's yours now and that's what matters. -- Posted by Anonymous at 12:23 am on Dec. 4, 2008 i ws in sam situation :/ its hrd, u just gotta get ova it b4 u lose her -- Posted by studmuffn at 12:23 am on Dec. 4, 2008 when ur 19 dont expect to be many girls' first guy. -- Posted by HaouLance99 at 12:24 am on Dec. 4, 2008 That's the feeling I'm going to have eventually, since I haven't even had a girl yet (18 here). I like this girl, but I just know she was with other guys, and it's going to be something I have to deal with. -- Posted by A6stringpoet at 12:29 am on Dec. 4, 2008 honestly dude, it is much better for a girl to have previous experience. Take it from me, the whole virginity thing isn't so hot when you realize it often hurts for her and is awkward for the first time. A woman who knows what she wants is a much better catch, and remember: she's doing you, not them, and there's a reason for that. Sex isn't about giving or taking something away, it is rather an intimate expression that is as unique to each person as thier finger print. Try not to get caught up in the past. She's here with you, in the present.