-- Posted by Anonymous at 11:39 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Ok, I am 18 and a senior is high school and I like this sophomore who is 15. We are both in band and she sits RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME!! Despite that, I can't say a word to her even if I try to force myself to do so. I have never talked to her before because I am too scared to even say "hi". This is probably I have always FAILED with girls. Can anyone tell me how I can increase my confidence and and say something. Also, is there a chance she knows I like her? If so I am screwed. -- Posted by lovemetwicetoday at 11:40 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Why are you screwed if she finds out she likes you?  That is what you want isn't it? -- Posted by theAnomie at 11:40 am on Dec. 4, 2008 I'm the opposite. If I like a girl I don't shut up. They laugh and shrug me off. -- Posted by AmazingRed at 11:40 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Cause it's Winter time. -- Posted by Teenie1 at 11:41 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Just talk to her. -- Posted by DirtyPeanut at 11:41 am on Dec. 4, 2008 She probably doesn't, nothing we can really say will help you except in the harsh way 'GROW A PAIR AND TALK TO THE GIRL'. Just see it as this, if you don't you could already be throwing away something great. What have you got to lose? -- Posted by Descartes at 11:42 am on Dec. 4, 2008 SACK UP BRO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that the best advice i can give you haha -- Posted by Anonymous at 11:46 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Quote: from lovemetwicetoday at 1:40 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Why are you screwed if she finds out she likes you? That is what you want isn't it? yea, but I want to tell her. I don't want her to just find out out of nowhere. last time that happened, it ended in a MAJOR FAIL!! -- Posted by lovemetwicetoday at 11:52 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 11:46 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Quote: from lovemetwicetoday at 1:40 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Why are you screwed if she finds out she likes you?  That is what you want isn't it? yea, but I want to tell her. I don't want her to just find out out of nowhere. last time that happened, it ended in a MAJOR FAIL!! Then you know what you need to do . -- Posted by Fr0StY28 at 11:53 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Dude you just have to look for an opening and talk to her. Simple as that... and ya your right you dont want her to find out through the grape vine that you like her, or even tell her you like her... you need to show her you like her -- Posted by medjai at 11:54 am on Dec. 4, 2008 Pretend you are talking to a tree. -- Posted by fairylights at 11:56 am on Dec. 4, 2008 I know it's hard but just start off by saying hi in passing, you said you are both in band together, so why not talk about that? Ask her what she thinks of the music or something... then take it from there. :) -- Posted by Bagheera at 12:03 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Quote: from medjai at 7:54 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Pretend you are talking to a tree. Or don't. But Jared is right in a way. I wouldn't be surprised that in your head you're building her and this conversation up to be such a big thing, that when you actually have to have it, or want to have it, it's just too huge to actually find the words. Feeling nervous when talking to a pretty girl for the first time isn't unusual, regardless of age. She's in front of you in band, so I presume you play the same/ similar instruments. Ask for her help with yours, say something isn't working, or something like that. A meaningless little conversation that doesn't actually mean anything but breaks the ice. Always good. How can she possibly know that you like her if you've never spoken to her? She's not a mind reader, and I'm guessing you don't spend all your time staring at her. Your problem is you're blowing this up into such a big issue that you're never going to feel comfortable about it all. Just... go for it. -- Posted by medjai at 12:38 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 What I mean is when you talk to a tree you don't give a shit what the tree thinks. -- Posted by Bagheera at 12:44 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Quote: from medjai at 8:38 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 What I mean is when you talk to a tree you don't give a shit what the tree thinks. You also look completely crazy     -- Posted by medjai at 1:12 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Because I give good advice? When I'm flirting with girls I don't put them on a high horse, to me it's the same as talking to a tree, I don't care all if I get rejected or not. -- Posted by Bagheera at 1:16 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Quote: from medjai at 9:12 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Because I give good advice? When I'm flirting with girls I don't put them on a high horse, to me it's the same as talking to a tree, I don't care all if I get rejected or not. Sane people don't talk to trees. People don't look sane whilst talking to trees. -- Posted by medjai at 2:53 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 Its a matter of perspective I don't actually talk to trees silly -- Posted by anna rachelle at 11:12 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 just...TALK TO HER. I know it's kinda hard sometimes. ( or maybe all the time? ) but just push yourself. Be nice. Dont look like your nervous at all. lol... ;)