-- Posted by Anonymous at 5:26 pm on Dec. 5, 2008 so about 2 months ago i started hanging out with this guys & he was unbelieveable super nice & i really started to like him so we were tlking & became really good friends & like a month ago just about we went on a field trip together for school to nyc. & it was really nice we held hands the whole time & it was really romantic & all of thatt. on the way home on the bus he still had not asked me out everyone thought he would b.c he told me he really likes me too. so anyway on the bus on the way home he was putting his hands all over my body & stuff & it was wierd b.c i usually dont let guys get that close to me so quicklyy but i just acted like it was ok. on the way home we kissed a couple of times but when he made his move so we could make out i backed out b.c i was scaredd... well not scaredd but like didnt want to go so fastt. & + we werent going out yet. we get back to the school and it is time to go & he kisses me goodbye & we leave & he still hasnt asked me out but my friends assured me he really liked me & maybe he was to nervous to ask face to face and he would ask on myspace that night. so i just went with it. later that night he messages me & the title was "im really sorry" so i open it & pretty much he told me that he likes me but he likes someone else too. by the next day he had asked her out & i was crushedd & i liked him so much i made im myself sick i was so upsett but anywayy me & him moved on from that & recently this week we made up & we have been talking alott more &he broke up with his girlfriend & he said he want so start new with me but also wanted to take it slow & he pretty much said he wants to put things in test drive & see how it works out & of course i agreed so we have been kissing and stuff but we are not offically boyfriend & girlfriend. so i finally got up the guts to tell him today that i want to be offical & its either that or nothingg b.c i dont want this i want a serious realtionship & he said he wanted the same earlier that week pretty much he blew it off 7 said he'll get back to me but he hasnt yett & its really upsetting me so what should i do?? did i do the right thing?? are we rushing things?? what do you think he will say?? what should i do next?? -- Posted by greatescape at 11:52 am on Dec. 8, 2008 This guy seems like the type of guy that thinks that all relationships revolve around him and his own feelings. I'm not saying that he's a bad guy or anything, but to me it sounds like he really only has his own feelings in mind. First, he leads you on and acts like you two really have a lot of potential for a relationship, and then turns around and tells you that he's also liked someone else the whole time and that he'd rather be with her. It's one thing to like another person, but in my opinion you shouldn't be leading someone else on while you feel that way. Now, it seems like he's not really into it once again. He's just playing around with your feelings with no regard for how all of this is affecting you. By completing blowing you off after you put yourself out there and asked him out, he's showing (once again) that he would rather see what else is out there before he commits to anything. Again, this doesn't make him a bad person but it shows that maybe he isn't mature enough for a relationship yet. If he can't make any commitments to people that he has feelings for, maybe it's best to just let him figure out what he really wants before starting something. At this point it's completely up to you, but my advice is to not force him into anything. If he's not ready for a relationship, then there isn't much you can do besides accept that and move on. If he does end up turning around and deciding that he wants something more, then go for it. However make sure that you are both prepared to commit to the relationship.