-- Posted by Anonymous at 6:49 pm on Dec. 17, 2008 I'm a college junior, 21 years old.  I go to a university and I am also an RA (resident assistant), so I have the opportunity to interact and meet a lot of people. I used to always be shy and stuff, but I have opened up a lot more.  I feel more confident in myself.  I used to feel that no guy liked me, but a few showed interest and asked me on a date....so I tried, but nothing ever really went further. And now I'm hitting a dry spot.  I dont have a lot of extra time to date because I am quite busy with my schoolwork and my RA job.  What would you say is a good idea for a girl to do in regards to dating?  Is it ok for the girl to ask a guy on a date?  And where are good places to meet people? Just some advice for how to feel confident enough when talking to a guy...and how to know if a guy is being genuine or interested? -- Posted by jennamae1988 at 7:31 pm on Dec. 17, 2008 There is nothing wrong in this day and age for women to ask men out on dates. Try a library, bar or even a park.   For the confidence issue just tell yourself first that it's not a big deal either way.  If you play it cool like that a guy is more likely to respond to a female making the move.   Every guy shows different signs when they are interested.  A couple common ones are: they randomly look at you and frequently, they go out of their way to talk to you,  they physically touch you even if its on the shoulder or arm it can be a sign. If you have a guy acting a certain way just message me and I will give you an opinion on if I think he likes you or is interested. -- Posted by definite124 at 3:35 pm on Dec. 19, 2008 start out as friends? -- Posted by Van Darius at 6:00 pm on Dec. 22, 2008 I am a guy and I can tell you that I really wouldn't mind if a girl asked me out. as for your other issue -- you don't have to ask him out as soon as you see someone cute. rather, if you see him in the dining hall, ask if you can join the table. it's neutral territory and there's no pressure to perform. next, if you happen to see him walking on campus, stop by and have a few-minute chat. see? there's a lot you can do before officially asking a guy on a date. and by the time you reach that phase, who knows? maybe you won't even be interested anymore. but chances are, you'll be less shy. good luck! -- Posted by JustinHit at 6:08 pm on Dec. 23, 2008 I recommend you to not ask a guy out unless your absolutely sure you want to go out with this guy and if you think he's a really shy type. Mmh I always thought it would be easier to be the girl, since the guy should be trying harder. Asking questions, wondering who you are. I really recommend you just relax and just talk. Don't try so hard it should just come out naturally. -- Posted by LoveKay at 10:57 am on Dec. 24, 2008 It's always okay for a girl to ask out a guy. In fact, most men prefer that because alot of them feel as if they have to do everything. The change is always good. You can always meet up at coffee spots or something. I dunno, there isnt much here so I dont have much advice.