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-- Posted by Anonymous at 8:59 pm on Dec. 23, 2008

Today we ran into his ex. They hadn't seen in each other in years. She was like "OH HI! LONG TIME NO SEE, OH IT'S SO GREAT TO SEE YOU!!!" Blah, blah, hugging him and stuff... ignoring me of course.

She's gorgeous. She has a gorgeous face and great hair.

Of course she was a bitch to him and he would never go back to her as we've been together for like 8 times what they lasted...

But still, she' so skinny and has gorgeous, long black hair, perfect pale skin and huge dark brown eyes. I'm not skinny, not fat, mid term, brown hair, tanned skin, lighter brown eyes.

He says I'm prettier but I don't think so, I've never had guys fawning over me like she has. He told me "Oh, but you have boobs! She's flat". Agreed, she's flat, but she's slim and has a GORGEOUS FACE! So boobs is the only thing I have goingon for me? Plus mine aren't really big, of course they're huge compared to her un-boobs, I'm a b cup, but still. Boobs don't make me any better, not when my hair, face and skin aren't up to pat to hers...

Whatever... I just really hate her, I guess we all go through a phase like this...


-- Posted by Ariella Starr at 9:01 pm on Dec. 23, 2008

El oh el.
I seek someone is jealous....


-- Posted by The Wolfhound at 9:02 pm on Dec. 23, 2008

No one is perfect. You are insecure to the point of doubting your boyfriend. If he says you are the most gorgeous to him, he's not lying. You should think about that. It takes trust and that's not what I see right now. I see jealousy. Jealousy equals lies. Snap out of it...


-- Posted by akSamiRae at 9:02 pm on Dec. 23, 2008

I'm sorry.


-- Posted by spaceykayce at 9:02 pm on Dec. 23, 2008

Yep. I hated that phase.

Than again, now I'm the ex, but I don't think I'll be hugging him any time soon.


-- Posted by morrisonsMYmuse at 9:03 pm on Dec. 23, 2008

here's somthing that may come as a shock to you::
perhaps he likes you for more that what you look like.
there is more to a person than looks. so what if i his ex is prettier than you.. someone is always going to be prettier than you. you have to realize that if he's not with her and he is with you.. then you obviously have something that she doesn't. and i'm sure that it's more than just a nice set of boobs. don't stress over it.


-- Posted by DarkSunshine at 9:03 pm on Dec. 23, 2008

Uge,  I know what you mean. well not really as I am my boyfriends first girlfriend. But like I have been through that with Ex's,and I'm constantly comparing myself to other girls and yeah. I'm sure your beautiful though.hugs


-- Posted by Anonymous at 10:51 am on Dec. 24, 2008

I know how you feel. I experience this with my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends alot. I just feel crappy when they are there... when I can see them, or even when they add me to MySpace. How pathetic right? I feel like I'm in the same boat as you. You know your man won't leave you or anything, but you just feel like an insignificant ant compared to his ex. All of us girls wish we could be the most desired women, have men goggling over us. But what matters is not what everybody thinks, but what the one you love thinks about you. I can understand how you feel, and you can get over it, until you see that person again, right? It's the same with me, so I don't really know how well I can help.


-- Posted by GeneCosta at 6:30 am on Dec. 26, 2008

This emotion is normal, but as others have said, characteristics are just as important (sometimes more important) than looks.

And speaking as a male, flat chested does make a world of difference for men who like boobs. Chances are her rump isn't exactly in order either.


-- Posted by nik1 at 1:43 pm on Dec. 26, 2008

Give me a break.  Why are you so frigging insecure?  Even Scarlett Johansen runs into other girls that are more beautiful than she is but that's life.  Beauty is subjective.  If you bf is happy that is all you need to think about.

You are what you are....learn to love yourself.


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