-- Posted by Anonymous at 2:37 am on Dec. 30, 2008 This is so hard to watch. I don't know how to bring this up. We're friends, but not intimate friends. We get fucked up together, we paint together. I went through an anorexic stage (alright, many of them) but even at my thinnest I wasn't like this. She misses classes all the time because she's sick and always catching cold. She does a lot of opiates and (we're in college together) studies death rituals. I really worry that this is a slow dance she's doing towards suicide just pushing it further and further. How can I bring this up? I know that when I'm at very low weights, I either don't want to talk to people who are worried about me at all and I lash out angrily or instead I internally take their concerns as encouragement that I'm making progress. but how can I stand by knowing anorexia and letting her do this? She's lost about 15 lbs this semester I would guess, and she's just losing more. -- Posted by Neilap at 2:39 am on Dec. 30, 2008 ...... *gag*.... im sorry but shit Help her like.. a the fuck sap. -- Posted by XOallixs0n at 2:39 am on Dec. 30, 2008 If she only lost 15 pounds, then she was tiny to begin with. There is no good way to bring this up. You need to just be blunt, swift, and to the point. Don't cut around the bush. You need to let her see that you know what's going on, but you're here to help. You need to let her understand that you're not going anywhere until she's better. You can't stand by and watch her kill herself. -- Posted by hi sarah at 2:40 am on Dec. 30, 2008 Wow she is like nearly as skinny as my friend who was hospitalized. You can't do much, except talk to adults, like her parents. Other than that, if she doesn't want help you can't force it on her. It's good you're trying to be a good friend, but there isn't much you can do for someone who refuses help. Although if she is really bad (pictures don't really say much) then you can talk to the hospital or doctors etc. Tell her how you feel about it, and that you've been there too. Be supportive and encourage her to be healthier. -- Posted by agerask at 2:41 am on Dec. 30, 2008 at this point, it would be a really good idea to seek professional help for her.  you said it best yourself, when you go through these stages, other people's remarks regarding your looks are strictly not welcomed and are usually taken in a backwards manner.   please get her some help. anorexia is so damaging, and so tragic. -- Posted by Anonymous at 2:42 am on Dec. 30, 2008 Quote: from roflfuckyou at 5:40 am on Dec. 30, 2008 Wow she is like nearly as skinny as my friend who was hospitalized. You can't do much, except talk to adults, like her parents. Other than that, if she doesn't want help you can't force it on her. It's good you're trying to be a good friend, but there isn't much you can do for someone who refuses help. Although if she is really bad (pictures don't really say much) then you can talk to the hospital or doctors etc. we're both adults, 20, and her parents are out of the picture. maybe if I get all her friends together though we could do some sort of intervention -- Posted by BackPorch at 2:43 am on Dec. 30, 2008 I think the only thing you can do is be blunt and to the point. -- Posted by blufindr at 2:47 am on Dec. 30, 2008 Get that tasteless, scentless calorie spray and stick it in her water. -- Posted by hersheyparker at 5:28 am on Dec. 30, 2008 Try to get medical help. -- Posted by Addicted 2 Candy at 6:19 am on Dec. 30, 2008 wow she needs help. i know i may be small like her but im healthy i eat everyday and dont get sick often. -- Posted by XxBaybeexHayzxX at 6:57 am on Dec. 30, 2008 God, thats a shame to see, try and talk to her but if she doesn't agree with you and refuses to listen, then tell somebody else about her to give her some help. Risk having an argument with her rather to risk having to lose her for good, Nobody deserves that, try and talk to her a best friend chat. -- Posted by Natsy at 7:47 am on Dec. 30, 2008 holy fuck... she's beyond your help, she needs a professional...