-- Posted by pinkpoodle at 4:47 am on Dec. 31, 2008  Hello, I am new here. I am in an 18 month relationship. I received an engagement ring about a month ago. My boy friend is not who or what I thought he was. I haven't eaten for a week. I am terrified to be alone. I need to find the courage to break up with him and move on with my life. Thanks for listening. Huge Happy Hugs, Lauren -- Posted by katbabes at 4:48 am on Dec. 31, 2008 *hugs* im sorry, why dont you call him and explain why he sint what you thought he was? -- Posted by akSamiRae at 4:48 am on Dec. 31, 2008 I sorry. -- Posted by pinkpoodle at 4:50 am on Dec. 31, 2008 I am living with him. I need to take my dog, 3 cats, and my bird and head home. I hate breakups although I know they are necessary. -- Posted by blufindr at 4:50 am on Dec. 31, 2008 Oh dear Tell him, hon! And please eat something! -- Posted by pinkpoodle at 4:52 am on Dec. 31, 2008 Thank you, my goodness everyone here is so kind. I am very happy to be here. Huge Hugs, Lauren -- Posted by its only me at 5:13 am on Dec. 31, 2008 Hey, Welcome to LW and getting straight into posting. Thats good! It's vital that you put your own health before ANYONE else. Regardless of whether you love him or not you need to eat something to keep your own state of mind clear and so you're physically well. So even if you just eat a small amount of something it's better than nothing. Once you've eaten you need to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him what you've said to us. Tell him why you think he's not the person you thought he was and SEE if there's any way to get round it. If not then you need to explain to him that the fact he isn't what you thought he was is making you unhappy and you have to take care of yourself. This means being happy. If being unhappy is making you not eat he should realise this and whilst he may not be happy with it, if he loves you enough to marry you, he should put your best interests first and let go. I hope this helps :) -- Posted by gman101 at 5:23 am on Dec. 31, 2008 hey welcome. and nice username, ive never heard that one before. -- Posted by XxBaybeexHayzxX at 6:01 am on Dec. 31, 2008 Hey, welcome to livewire. Always consider yourself before anybody else, and if you can't be with him any longer then you'll have to find an easy way to break up with him. if face is too hard then try phoning, anything Good Luck -- Posted by pinkpoodle at 6:18 am on Dec. 31, 2008 Thank you. I have a white 70 female standard poodle named Mimi'. Last Easter Mimi' and I were featured in our local newspaper when I dyed her pink. Huge Hugs, Lauren -- Posted by pinkpoodle at 6:48 am on Dec. 31, 2008 Thank you It's Only Me.                                         You are so wise and so kind. I am packing and getting ready to go back home. It will be a couple of trips to get all of my things out of here. I will always be grateful to you for your advice.  Huge Freedom Hugs, Lauren