-- Posted by wishbone123 at 12:28 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Hey guys. I'm a 18 female in a relationship with (but now broken up for good I think) with a 18 guy for just over 2 years. I had a difficult childhood cause my dad was an alcoholic and he left when I was 8ish. My boyfriend likes to casually drink with friends but it freaks me out and I get upset because it reminds me of my dad and I am afraid he will end up becoming an alcoholic and leaving me. I told him I didn't really mind, as long as he didn't keep the drinking a secret from me like my dad did. Well, the other night, my boyfriend came over and he had a hangover. He just wanted to sleep on the couch instead of spending time with me. I asked him again and again until he finally confessed that he had been drinking with his friends the night before while playing video games. I was so upset because he had lied to me about it that we got into a huge fight and now we are broken up. It doesn't feel right, though. We still love each other and it just doesn't feel like we are supposed to be apart. What do you suggest? Am I right for leaving him because he kept the drinking a secret, or am I being totally crazy? I want to get back together with him, but I don't want him to drink because it causes me so much pain. -- Posted by VALIENT at 12:29 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Not only are you crazy, you might be what some call "insane in the brain". -- Posted by wishbone123 at 12:30 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Quote: from Valient at 12:29 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Not only are you crazy, you might be what some call "insane in the brain". Why do you say that? -- Posted by SomeRandomKid at 12:30 am on Jan. 2, 2009 insane in the membrane =_ -- Posted by HatesYou at 12:30 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Quote: from Valient at 3:29 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Not only are you crazy, you might be what some call "insane in the brain". INSANE IN THE MEMBRANE. -- Posted by HatesYou at 12:30 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Quote: from SomeRandomKid at 3:30 am on Jan. 2, 2009 insane in the membrane =_ Aw fuck beat me to it. -- Posted by Rocket boy at 12:31 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Get back with him and help him to stop drinking. -- Posted by x MILI at 12:31 am on Jan. 2, 2009 thats not a good enough reason to break up wit someone -- Posted by lucid dreams19 at 12:31 am on Jan. 2, 2009 I mean he shouldnt of lied, but hes  young and hes gonna do what hes gonna do. You pressuring him to not drink is probably why he felt he had to lie too you. Hes not an alcoholic or a bad person or going to leave you if he drinks once in a while. Ask him not too drink i guess if you really need too, but remember that he is young and that is what kids do. He has been with you for 2 years because he cares about you and his drinking doesnt mean that he doesnt care for you. His drinking will not cause him to leave you in any way. Just remember to be tolerant and compromise. -- Posted by ArrestedAndCharged at 12:32 am on Jan. 2, 2009 You guys are just awful, sick! Lol Hun, don't get back together with him. He clearly has a problem and you deserve so much better than that. Find a guy who's responsible with his life, somebody who doesn't make alcohol his god. -- Posted by wishbone123 at 12:32 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Quote: from x mili at 12:31 am on Jan. 2, 2009 thats not a good enough reason to break up wit someone He already knew how much it hurt me when he drank but he decided to do it anyway. I certainly feels like he didn't care about us, as long as he could drink with his friends. -- Posted by patchysmiles at 12:40 am on Jan. 2, 2009 go buy a gallloon of milk. it will make your life better -- Posted by x MILI at 12:43 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Quote: from wishbone123 at 12:32 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Quote: from x mili at 12:31 am on Jan. 2, 2009 thats not a good enough reason to break up wit someone He already knew how much it hurt me when he drank but he decided to do it anyway. I certainly feels like he didn't care about us, as long as he could drink with his friends. idk maybe yall should talk about it while hes not hungover... peer pressure is a bitch -- Posted by annabelleeEAP at 12:56 am on Jan. 2, 2009 fear is not something break up with some one over unless you senses your in danger -- Posted by Xusk at 8:09 am on Jan. 2, 2009 Move on, grow up and live life. The process repeats, being 18, you have plenty of time to find true love. The more relationships you have, the more you'll realise what your truely looking for and then you will find it but untill then, your bound for failure. Guys know exactly what they want and untill they become older, it's not a soul mate. FUN comes to mind.