-- Posted by ssminow at 10:34 am on Jan. 2, 2009 ok, so i was really good friends with this guy on the ski team i am on, and then we ended up doing stuff every night after practice. meanwhile, he had a gf. i told him to tell her everything, and he did. i was pretty good friends with her until this all happened. i have appologized once in person, but she didnt accept it. she told him that she didn't want him talking to me at all while we were on the team together anymore, but we still talk like we did before before and she doesnt know. last august he got her pregnant and it would be really great if she and i could be friends again, especially now that they have a baby coming. he and i have talked about how to try and be friends with her again and we think that writing a letter would be best. does anyone have any better ideas? we are still trying to avoid her knowing that him and i are still talking -- Posted by its only me at 10:38 am on Jan. 2, 2009 A letter is always nice but you have to accept that before this happened you were in a position of trust with her. When you did that "stuff" that trust was broken. Broken trust can be very hard to get back. It's possible she may never completely forgive you for your actions - but i always find letters a lot nicer and a lot easier to write your feelings down. Good luck :) -- Posted by ArrestedAndCharged at 10:39 am on Jan. 2, 2009 I think writing a letter would be a great way to try and get through to her. NOW WITH THAT SAID...what the hell was she thinking taking him back, yet not talking to you? As far as I'm concerned, if I was her, I'd kick BOTH of you to the curb! Girls who take the guy back but are mad at the girl he cheated with are just stupid, THE OTHER GIRL doesn't owe her anything and is not indebted to her, THE GUY is! HE cheated on here, YOU didn't! But I don't know, maybe she was desperate. She really shouldn't have decided to have a baby with this guy cuz if he cheated once, he'll do it again (and who's to say you were the first girl he cheated with in the first place?)