-- Posted by greynard at 8:27 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 help me figure this out. back info : his grandfather is dying and he is trying to switch schools which scares him cause he doesn't know if he can hack it, He doesn't talk to me about whats going on.... and he has the flu here is the convo me:u feeling anybetter? him:not particularly me:aww him:im srry me:u have to work? him:yup him:happy birthday, by the by me:thanks me:did u actually remember? me:or read my blog thing (him:what blog thing? me:never mind me:lol him:myspace? me:posted one on okcupid him:oh me:look i need to know..... me:are we ok? him:I have a load of stuff going on right now, and it all sucks him:I'm going to need some time to get myself straightened out me:well do u want to talk about it? me:cause u know id help if i could him:I really don't want to talk about it right now me:alright me:so u dont want to talk to me at all? me:i guess when u figure things out ill be here for u him:I'll talk to you when I can me:well i hope u feel better him:but right now I have too much else to worry about him:if you need to talk I can me:well like i said im here if u need to talk me:g-night please help me figure this out? what should i do? -- Posted by Jman19 at 8:28 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 What is there to figure out? Leave him alone. He'll talk to you when he feels like it. -- Posted by UltimaTaz at 8:29 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 Go to sleep, you liar. -- Posted by x0fantasy20 at 8:29 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 its over. -- Posted by effyouseakay at 8:29 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 Give him the space he needs. He's going through a rough time and be there for him when you can but don't push it. -- Posted by HuffleHaire at 8:35 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 I had the same problem. He said it was his problem, with everything going on. It was actually something I had said. It went on a month before I finally made him tell me what the fuck was up, and he's like "You said you didn't want me, whaaa" Fuck boys. -- Posted by chikichicky at 10:44 am on Jan. 6, 2009 If he's not going to initiate the talk, then perhaps you can press it. He seems to get the idea that he has to handle it alone, but being in a part of a relationship means sharing both pain and happiness. He probably doesn't want to involve you and worry you, so he's chosen to disclose information from you. If you really do care about him, let him know that there's no reason why he should shoulder the burden by himself. If he shares that weight, the recovery process will be quicker. Sometimes even a big comforting hug can do a lot.