-- Posted by awebb09 at 7:41 am on Jan. 7, 2009 my bf who i've had for 1yr and 2 months just decided yesterday that he wants to go to california for welding training in the marines....i dont want him to leave me...i want him to do what he wants with his life but hes gonna be gone for 6 months and thers a 2% chance he has to go overseas....how do i convince him he can get a good welding job here and not have to join the marines...w/o making him hate me cuz i dont want him to leave. we plan on getting married after he gets out of training..but i just dont know...ugghh...so confused.. -- Posted by snowcone200 at 7:43 am on Jan. 7, 2009 How old are you? 1 yr and your talking marriage. He's still young obviously and yes him leaving may change him. But you both can't tie each other down over an engagement(a promise). If he come baq gud -- Posted by Sins and Demons at 7:43 am on Jan. 7, 2009 Let him go, how the world is going now and the American economy if he can go train and get a job let him do it. -- Posted by My Dreams WILL Wait at 7:44 am on Jan. 7, 2009 Okay...You'll marry him in the end. I don't see what's bothering you?! I know you don't want to be alone for 6 months..but think about the wedding and when he gets back.. -- Posted by zluvsanime at 7:44 am on Jan. 7, 2009 its not hard, if you love him dont hold him back -- Posted by cedesbenz at 7:45 am on Jan. 7, 2009 LET HIM TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY.. THIS CAN HELP BOTH YOU AND HIM IN THE FUTURE. I KNOW ITS GOING TO BE HARD TO BE WITHOUT HIM THAT IS ALONG TIME WITHOUT SOMEONE YOU CARE FOR BUT THIS CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU AND HIS LIFE TOGETHER IN THE FUTURE.. JUST KNOW  HE;S COMING BACK.. -- Posted by Chiefette at 7:47 am on Jan. 7, 2009 How old are you?  You have to remember this is his life.  Maybe you should reconsider getting married.  You are his girlfriend, not his mother.  You should be going along with what he wants, not trying to convince him to change. -- Posted by snowcone200 at 7:47 am on Jan. 7, 2009 You don't know, you can just hope. Otherwise you'll be hurt if he don't bother coming back to you or you find somebody else while he gone. -- Posted by SplitPersonality at 7:50 am on Jan. 7, 2009 Sometimes you just have to let it go. Marriage is such a big step in life. And for him to join the Marines, you'll need to be understanding that he's doing it to better himself. Without this step, which is HIS choice, he can never truly see what he is capable of. It's sad how life has to suddenly be the way it is in this case-scenario, but you have to look at this as if it were a test. To find how far you're willing to go, in order for you two to stay together. *** *** WHAT THE FUCK KIND OF LAME SHIT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? YOU DON'T MAKE SENSE. I'M GOING TO REPEAT IT AS MUCH AS I CAN TO YOU. STOP HELPING THESE STRANGERS OUT, MAN. -- Posted by kissmeintherain91 at 7:51 am on Jan. 7, 2009 Don't stop him. I tried that when my ex joined the air force, he ended up leavingme. Its been 2 years and we are now back together. Believe me, support him and stay by his side, it'll all work out