-- Posted by Anonymous at 5:15 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 please help me i think im having depression relapses or something. my best friend adn my best guy friend are talking about me behind my back but my best friend is telling me about it. its not gossip its the fact that somehow ive hurt him in the past and i dont even know how and he is reminded of it whenever i hang out with him but he still wants to be friends. my group of friends is very vulnerable to depression it seems and when my ex loads all his stress and depression onto my best friend it makes my best friend depressed. and she in turn tells me to warn me but never actually discussses what she is stressed about. she is like the middle man when she doesnt have to be but she feels so compelled i dont think shes ever going to stop. this all makes me depressed and now she tells me not to even talk to my ex online or about any of our issues anymore. but i really dont know. its a huge chain reaction and if i get out of it  ill just be friendless and i love my friends they mean the world to me, and we have happy times but we end up leaving each other at night and going to bed depressed. waking up in the morning and knowing its a new day adn then remembering everything all over again. please i switched to this new school to be happier and less stressed and i dont want my depression to come back. -- Posted by starla91 at 5:19 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 go to your guy friend and have a heart to heart with him and try to figure out what it is that's bothering him. And tell your friend to chill, that things will be okay. Infact maybe it'd be a good idea for the three of you to get together and talk everything over. I mean, if you're friends that should be possible. but if you guys find it hard to share stuff like tht irl you can always communicate via long emails explaining exactly how you feel. get all the issues out in the open so that they can all be resolved. -- Posted by Aliboo at 5:23 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Take time to relax and write out your feelings, make a list of small goals for the week, motivate yourself, talk to someone, do something to help you unwind -- Posted by The Stranger at 2:31 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Depression is totally normal I am glad that you asked for  help before it is too late.Depression is a way to show your emotions and how to express yourself.You have a right to show how sad you are about this issue.I know that it is wrong for them to talk about you behind your back.He might feel hurt but it not your fault because you didn't know about it. Some relationships don't always work out and it could cause problems after the relationship has ended. If you want to stay friends you want to tell him how you feel because if he won't know how you feel he will still be hurt by the issue. I think that you should talk to him about this, tell him how you feel and how it would be better if you where friends. I just recommend to you that you need to get to you that you need to get this sorted out and try to get your friendship back to normal. However, not everyone you meet in life or have relationships will treat you in the dismannered way your ex boyfriend did. Tell your friends sorry for being dragged into this issue and reassure your friends that you are dealing with the issue and trying to get it work out to the best of your ability. Tell them you are so sorry for all the problems this issue has caused. If your friends give you hassle about this in the future try your best to ignore it and be yourself, don't provoke the situation now and she will then have no reason to be upset at you about this, tell her she needs to learn about how to say no to people. With this will come stress and it is something that us, as humans sometimes have to deal with. Stress should not be dealt with alone and this is why we are here for you, also if your stress get the best of you please tell an adult,a parent or a teacher about how you feel.Stress and depression shouldn't be dealt with alone no matter how strong you think you are and you should not suffer alone. If your stress is getting to you, do something to get it off your mind, for example, play a sport, write a diary, scream it out, etc. You are at a new school and it's time for a new start and you have a chance to start over. Forget about the past I know it is going to be hard but that is for your own good. Try not to bring the past with you or let it follow you. It's just like you are in a whole new world with new people, just try to change your actions so the past won't repeat itself. Hope this helps, Derek08