-- Posted by Anonymous at 10:44 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 First of all, I am bi, male and 19. My mum seems to think its a phase I'm going though. My boyfriend currently lives about 400km away, and we try to spend as much time together as we can, normally every second weekend). My boyfriend wants to move from where he lives to where I live, which is all good, but the problem is that I currently don't have a job and he would need to find a job here, so he would need to be able to stay somewhere for a bit till we both have a job and can orginise a flat. We thought that him staying at my place would have been the easiest way to sort this, but my mum still thinks I'm confused and doesn't want to think about us having sex and so on, so she doesn't really want him staying here. We want to be together as soon as we can, but its proving rather difficuilt. Does any one have any ideas that could help us? Thanks. -- Posted by Mein Alias at 10:46 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 Tell you mom to shove it and buttfuck on the other side of the house. Else, he could get employed from his location and be ready to move in when the employer is ready to let him start working. -- Posted by LtrOusRtD at 10:46 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 mmm.. toughie.. -- Posted by youSPUNKYnub at 10:48 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 maybe sit down with your mom and explain that whether it is a phase or not, you still really care about this guy and promise wont have sex with him in the house if it makes her uneasy. promise to keep the affection with each other at a minimum around her and tell her it would really mean a lot to you -- Posted by Anonymous at 10:55 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 As well as living with my mum, my dad also lives here, who doesn't know that I'm bi, so I'd kinda have to tell him aswell. I have told her that its not a phase that I'm going through and I'm not really into PDA's, so that wouldn't really be an issue. -- Posted by sharongmc at 11:01 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 I think you have to respect your Mom.  If your relationship is serious and mature, then have a job, save and then move in with him in another place. -- Posted by nik1 at 12:34 am on Jan. 8, 2009 I think it is disrespectful to expect your Mother to open up her house to a guest that you will be having sex with.  It's her house and home and you should respect her opinions.  Most Mothers look forward to the day when they have grandchildren and for her to accept a same sex relationship is pretty disappointing I would think.  Keep your sex life private from your Mother and both you and her will have a better relationship. If you want to play you have to pay.  Get a job and be self sufficient.  At 19 you should either be in school or working. -- Posted by Anonymous at 1:14 am on Jan. 8, 2009 I graduated late last year (12th december) and no one employs anyone so close to christmas. I am looking for a job now.