-- Posted by Andie2323 at 6:12 am on Jan. 8, 2009 okay, this is kind of complicated so i'll break it down as best as i can. i'm a junior now. freshman year, this guy, joey, told my best friend that he liked her aand wanted to go out with her, but then basically he was just messing with her completely. so i lectured him and prank called him for a week to get back at him( i know it was immature). but anyways, at the end of sophomore year, i was at the pool with a bunch of friends and joey was there. he got the nerve to call me fat and make jokes about it to my friends when i was there. so i went up to him and asked him what his problem was and he basically kept saying that to me. he KNEW i had been bulimic i think before. but anyway, my friends all stood up for me andmy mom came to pick me up because i was really embarassed (i cried in front of everyone...ugh) so anyway, one of my best  friends is now hooking up with him...and she wants to go out with him. the first time i foound out, i said i didn't care because she said it wasn't going to go anywhere. but when i found out more now, i told her i kind of felt betrayed and said i  couldn't talk to her anymore. she told some of her friends and one of the girls would not sotp texting and calling me and iming me. she started criticizing me for not wanting to party/drink with them and for being "a bitch" because i won't talk to the other girl for being with joey. she ALSO started saying she was becoming best friends with my ex boyfriend, who im really good friends with. she doesnt even KNOW him, she just added him on facebook. she started cursing at me, so i cursed right back....=/ anyway, do i have a right to be mad? or am i compltely overreacting? what do i do?! -- Posted by aleiram51 at 6:18 am on Jan. 8, 2009 well it's understandable for you to be angry.  but i think completely ignoring her is not the best way to go. you know how that guy is, and when he screws your friend over, she'll need some support. also, seeing as she and him hooked up before "going out" i'd say he isn't too into this whole relationship thing.  just from the way you described it. wait it out, and be there for your friend when it falls to pieces. -- Posted by Hoebag at 6:19 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Of course you have the right to be angry or upset after what happened, you stuck up for your friend and yourself and you shouldn't be punished for it. You're not overreacting at all. However, at your age girls are going to do what they can to get with the guy they want, it's just one of those things. I wouldn't suggest stopping talking to her if you are in a friendship circle just, try to stay out of her way and only talk to her if you HAVE to, even if it's just a few words, be the mature one here. As for your ex boyfriend, if you're still good friends with him then what does it matter eh? you aren't loosing a friend here, if this other girl wants to say bad things about you or to you then she really needs to take a good look in the mirror and grow up. Being called anything, especially 'fat' can tear people up inside so just, hold it together, I don't believe people can be fat, just because they don't look the same as someone else. Fat is just a word used to make someone feel bad, like ugly, nobody is ugly, they just look different to people in magazines. Hm, I can't really suggest much else unless you make a new friend circle and just block them on IM and ignore the texts, they will get bored eventually. Alternatively, keep the texts and show a teacher what is going on, she might be able to help. -- Posted by Andie2323 at 6:22 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Should I apologize to my friend? (the girl who wants to be with joey) and I explained the situation to my ex boyfriend about the girl. -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 6:24 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Well you do have a right to be peeved at this kid, and you should talk to your friend about it and tell them about how much it hurt youu... But if she really likes him leave her be, and just aviod him like the plague. -- Posted by aleiram51 at 6:26 am on Jan. 8, 2009 mmm don't worry about the girl, she's being stupid.  just ignore it. and if you apologize to her... idk i would say something like: "i don't like that you're dating him, but i don't think we should let it ruin our friendship."