-- Posted by Romani 16 at 7:07 am on Jan. 8, 2009 okay so im 19 my gf is about to turn 21 and as mean as it may sound im tired of her. She's too cutesy, kissy monster style and im sick of it. We've been going out for a year and a half now and Im trying to make her break up with me. She said that if i lose my next job she'd leave me [however im currently unemployed] My plan was to take off a few days and SAY i got fired then return to my job with my freedom. She's over-controlling and manipulative and manic depressive so if I were to just say "it's over" she might just kill herself and i don't really want that. Any idea's to help me make her leave me?? -- Posted by deaths door14 at 7:11 am on Jan. 8, 2009 she's old enough to realise she can't cling on to something or someone forever. it actually hurt more that my ex was waiting for me to do it (after the way he started acting with me) rather than do it himself when he wanted to. you've been together a year and a half so she should realise when something isn't right with you. i say you talk to her because nothing good is going to come out of lying. -- Posted by Craziie at 7:11 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Dude..break up with her yoursself.. dont lead her on ! -- Posted by Romani 16 at 7:12 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from deaths door14 at 7:11 am on Jan. 8, 2009 she's old enough to realise she can't cling on to something or someone forever. it actually hurt more that my ex was waiting for me to do it (after the way he started acting with me) rather than do it himself when he wanted to.   you've been together a year and a half so she should realise when something isn't right with you. i say you talk to her because nothing good is going to come out of lying. oh i would but the thing is she doesn't realise that we aren't a good match. So I have to make her realise that we aren't. edit:: spelling -- Posted by BabiiGiirl at 7:13 am on Jan. 8, 2009 She's a big girl. She can handle it. She should know that she shouldn't be so over-controlling. You could always tell her to stop what you don't like instead of breaking it off. You should just come out and say it instead of lying, because if she finds out that her boyfriend of 1 and a half lied to her because he was sick of her..she'll be on a rampage. -- Posted by deaths door14 at 7:22 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from Romani 16 at 3:12 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from deaths door14 at 7:11 am on Jan. 8, 2009 she's old enough to realise she can't cling on to something or someone forever. it actually hurt more that my ex was waiting for me to do it (after the way he started acting with me) rather than do it himself when he wanted to. you've been together a year and a half so she should realise when something isn't right with you. i say you talk to her because nothing good is going to come out of lying. oh i would but the thing is she doesn't realise that we aren't a good match. So I have to make her realise that we aren't. edit:: spelling okay, but people don't always love/like one another forever or continuously so mayvbe just tell her you don't want to be with her and then explain why you think you don't work. add in some things that annoy her and maybe, although she'll probably deny it, she'll start to realise you're telling the truth and she'll have to let go. it's unfair on both of you really to carry on just because she's manic depressive etc. you can make her think it's best to break up by speaking to her. -- Posted by Hysteria at 7:23 am on Jan. 8, 2009 That's really stupid, if you don't want to be with her say to her.  She'd be alot more hurt if you she ever found out that you were trying to make her break up with you, stop being such a coward.