-- Posted by lorenextdoor at 8:40 am on Jan. 8, 2009 How can you tell if you love your fiance/boyfriend more than he loves you?  How do you know when you are being too much, too involved? -- Posted by Missipop at 8:41 am on Jan. 8, 2009 when you find the anwser tell me -- Posted by Doghouse at 8:44 am on Jan. 8, 2009 it depends on the couple but whoever is more themselves is most likely the bigger lover. -- Posted by RAGEMAN at 9:07 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Why do you want to know? Are you worried he doesn't love you as much as you love him? You know you're being to involved if you are relying on him for your happiness or self-esteem. As long as you are both equals in a loveing relationship with independence and yet respect and love for eachother then you have a healthy relationship. One somebody in the relationship falls out of that equality it causes problems. It causes jealousy and fights and worry etc.