-- Posted by square b3ar at 11:56 am on Jan. 8, 2009 i stole one of my step-mom's Smirnoff's and brought it to school. then i went to my boyfriend's house and drank a little of it... a campus supervisor caught him talking about how he threw it in the trash at school to get rid of it. so now we are both suspended and im probably gonna get slapped around a bit. What should i say to help my situation and help them be a little more understanding? i recently talked about how i needed a little bit more freedom and i still want to maintain that. i am 15 and also need a way of gaining their trust... plz help! my parents generally freak out about small things, and my dad is an alcoholic. idid not have very much, just a few swallows. also i get good grades and im involved with sports.... i do have consequences...counseling and a class at the police department, which i will probably have 2 do community service... so please just dont say "buck up"... i need advice -- Posted by Ghost X at 11:57 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Offer them some, or say sorry. -- Posted by Frubeling at 11:57 am on Jan. 8, 2009 COUNSELING?! FOR ONE FUCKING DRINK?! -- Posted by rrachelll at 11:58 am on Jan. 8, 2009 only ONE smirnoff? like smirnoff ice or vodka? cause if its ice, ONE is not going to do anything -- Posted by Googoie at 11:58 am on Jan. 8, 2009 I see no opening for escape. Accept the punishment for your crime. -- Posted by Link01 at 11:58 am on Jan. 8, 2009 idiot i don't see this going well aspesaly since your dad is an alcoholic -- Posted by Daddysgurl01 at 11:59 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Um just say sorry -- Posted by justscott at 11:59 am on Jan. 8, 2009 buck up -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 11:59 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Wut? Comunity service? For VODKA?? -- Posted by XCyanideXLipsX at 11:59 am on Jan. 8, 2009 Couselling for a drink? THATS FUCKING STUPID. I drink and i'm 15 GOING ON 16... <.< I drank way more than that on occasions, My mum lets me dirnk in the house. I think you should tell your parents they need to give you more FREEDOM, your not a little girl anymore, your a YOUNG ADULT, and I think they are not giving you the respect you deserve tbf. -- Posted by theboxman at 12:00 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 I would deny it.  So someone heard him say he threw it out. Fuck that - where is the proof you had anything to do with it. Or you could tell your parents - Does this mean I should not have had group sex after taking all those drugs?  Tell them to lighten up and that in your view you experimented with alcohol and where smart enough not to take onto campus -- Posted by ManicD at 12:00 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from square b3ar at 7:56 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 i am 15 and also need a way of gaining their trust Oh yeah so Stealing and Drinking is showing how responsible you are and shows that they should give you more freedom and trust -- Posted by dorothyedgmon at 12:00 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 if u drank live up to the punishment dont try and get out of it because in the end if you do lie you'll get in even more trouble -- Posted by K r E s C e N d O at 12:01 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from Frubeling at 7:57 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 COUNSELING?! FOR ONE FUCKING DRINK?! I generally see nothing wrong with that. Oh, wait, I do. You'll have to bite the bullet. The ball is practically in their court. -- Posted by scout123 at 12:02 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 if you're dad is an alcohoic, of course your parents are going to freak when you drink alcohol. if you want to gain their trust and more freedom, stop being so reckless. you don't need alcohol to have a good time with your boyfiend. sorry but you are ganna have to buck up before your parents treat you more like a responsobale adult. if you wanna drink, i don;t suggest stealing it from your step mom either. and tell your bf not to be such a knob and a) brag about drinking at school and b) hide the bottle AT school. geez. you're not goign to have to have councilling for this -- Posted by Drinkingjam at 12:03 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from Googoie at 11:58 am on Jan. 8, 2009 I see no opening for escape. Accept the punishment for your crime. This guy's right. -- Posted by runthespread at 12:05 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 It's natural your parents are concerned if you have an alcoholic in your family. You should respect that concern because it's for the best and sometimes you're more likely to become one even without intending to. Just take the punishment, highlight what you will do to work through it, try to compromise with your parents about it being normal but also speak of the control you have over it. -- Posted by showgirl xx at 12:07 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Next time, ask them to have a drink with you -- Posted by GaelicFreak at 12:12 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Alcoholism is genetic, of COURSE they're going to freak. And you're fucking 15. They don't want you to be an alcoholic. Sure, counseling is a bit much, but you fucked up. So suck it up and deal. -- Posted by A6stringpoet at 12:17 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 There isn't any magical cure for the situation you are in, however there are tried and true methods that you can use to both regain your parent's trust and avoid a situation like this again. If you want your parent's trust, take all the punishment that the event requires, and try to take it in stride. If your parents see you handleing the situation maturely, they will back off somewhat.       Seeing as you are 15 it would be difficult to explain your teen pressures to them, and it would also be hard to sell an argument that you are adult enough to drink. However, come your 16th birthday, I would suggest that you take on some responsibilities right away. My parents didn't get off my back until I started working, driving and paying for my own car insurance/gas. (Many young people don't pay thier own car insurance, but honestly it isn't that hard, and it is a good way to start asserting your independence.) After you have gained thier trust andacted like a responsible young adult in that way, they might be more open to your experimentations.      Good grades, though they are nice, are not a responsibility apart from your parents. Trust me, they will never view it as anything more than a given, or something you should be doing at your age.    As far as not having this happen again, consider this next advice as vitally important. Whenever you drink with someone, make sure they are mature enough to keep quiet about it. Throwing a bottle of alchohol away at school was extremely foolish of your boyfriend. If he had thrown it away at home, I am sure if his parents saw it, the consequences would not have been nearly as bad. Also never brag/talk about your drinking habits at school, no matter how tempting it  is. You never know who is listening.     That is all I have, hope it was helpful to you. -- Posted by square b3ar at 1:16 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from A6stringpoet at 12:17 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 There isn't any magical cure for the situation you are in, however there are tried and true methods that you can use to both regain your parent's trust and avoid a situation like this again. If you want your parent's trust, take all the punishment that the event requires, and try to take it in stride. If your parents see you handleing the situation maturely, they will back off somewhat.     Seeing as you are 15 it would be difficult to explain your teen pressures to them, and it would also be hard to sell an argument that you are adult enough to drink. However, come your 16th birthday, I would suggest that you take on some responsibilities right away. My parents didn't get off my back until I started working, driving and paying for my own car insurance/gas. (Many young people don't pay thier own car insurance, but honestly it isn't that hard, and it is a good way to start asserting your independence.) After you have gained thier trust andacted like a responsible young adult in that way, they might be more open to your experimentations.   Good grades, though they are nice, are not a responsibility apart from your parents. Trust me, they will never view it as anything more than a given, or something you should be doing at your age.     As far as not having this happen again, consider this next advice as vitally important. Whenever you drink with someone, make sure they are mature enough to keep quiet about it. Throwing a bottle of alchohol away at school was extremely foolish of your boyfriend. If he had thrown it away at home, I am sure if his parents saw it, the consequences would not have been nearly as bad. Also never brag/talk about your drinking habits at school, no matter how tempting it is. You never know who is listening.     That is all I have, hope it was helpful to you. thanks! -- Posted by Rikk at 1:27 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 blame it all on your dad's alcoholism. -- Posted by Event Horizon at 1:50 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from XCyanideXLipsX at 2:59 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Couselling for a drink? THATS FUCKING STUPID. I drink and i'm 15 GOING ON 16... <.<   I drank way more than that on occasions, My mum lets me dirnk in the house. I think you should tell your parents they need to give you more FREEDOM, your not a little girl anymore, your a YOUNG ADULT, and I think they are not giving you the respect you deserve tbf. This is the single silliest thing you could have said. 1. Regardless of whether or not we think it's ok, it is still illegal to drink underage. Your parents are responsible for you and your actions, so if they don't want you drinking, then either don't, or deal with the consequences when you do. THAT is being an adult. 2. Her father is an alcoholic, which means alcohol has done a lot of damage --or at least moderate damage-- to the family [most especially the mother]. Bringing a bottle of vodka to school is a BIG problem. You are not in school to get drunk, you are there to learn --at least that is what the purpose of it is. I understand fully her mother getting upset with her. 3. Bringing a bottle of alcohol to school should result in counseling. If you can't wait until after school to take a drink, then there is something going on. I'm all for drinking, and I had my first drink in the sixth grade so I'm not against underage drinking. But only if the kid doing it is responsible about it.   Face the consequences of your actions, it sucks, I know. edit: If you drank it at home and he threw it out at school, then he is just dumb and you should face the consequences just for allowing him to be so stupid. -- Posted by xdreaxbabyx at 2:46 am on Jan. 9, 2009 damn! all that cuz of one? lmao. shit . thats just crazy! -- Posted by sykexl at 10:58 am on Jan. 9, 2009 How stupid do you have to be to not be able to talk yourself out of a punishment where the whole thing is based on what someone overheard a high school student simply talking about? Although the people bitching about your "punishment" are wrong. You deserve counseling if you actually thought bringing alcohol to school is a good idea, even if you didn't partake in it there. Your boyfriend is an even bigger idiot for bringing it back....to toss it. How hard is it to throw it over a fence or something? Fuck, put the bottle in the middle of the street, it doesn't matter. And since you apparently need to be told this, stealing from your parents is not only wrong, it is incredibly moronic. -- Posted by MaryLin at 11:12 am on Jan. 9, 2009 Do you actually understand that what you did was wrong? If you sincerely regret your action, tell your family and everyone that you already learned your lesson and that you're willing to take the consequences. Show some maturity. Everyone does stupid things as teenagers but letting others know that you know what you did was wrong makes them trust you again. Of course I'm in a different position since in my country nobody really cares too much about it and I also drank alcohol in public when I was under 18 although it's completely illegal. In fact, I'm drinking alcohol now, lol. But I'm 18 now so it's all cool. My mom never really cared too much anyways. In fact, she bought me this drink. lol -- Posted by Xusk at 9:19 am on Jan. 10, 2009 Quote: from square b3ar at 11:56 am on Jan. 8, 2009 i stole one of my step-mom's Smirnoff's and brought it to school. then i went to my boyfriend's house and drank a little of it... a campus supervisor caught him talking about how he threw it in the trash at school to get rid of it. so now we are both suspended and im probably gonna get slapped around a bit. What should i say to help my situation and help them be a little more understanding? More understanding? This makes no sense, you went to your b/fs and drank it so he saved it to throw it away at school and then talked about it infront of a campus supervisor who then somehow turned you both in leading to a suspension without any proof of said act being done other then what your b/f said.... All I can say to that is, get a new b/f with common sense and some loyality because somehow you also got suspended from him being dumb. YOU also need to start thinking with common sense and NEVER EVER bring drugs to school period, not even tylenol. That along with stealing, is a no no. Hopefully your parents will realise they need to start doing better parenting. If anything, they'll understand that. -- Posted by Elephantis at 9:40 am on Jan. 10, 2009 why didn't you just deny it all? :s