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-- Posted by babyeri2009 at 1:20 pm on Jan. 8, 2009

Iight so on Janurary 16 me and my boyfriend will have been together for 5 months. for like the past month and  a half, we've seen each other 1 time which was christmas, and we usually spent friday, or sat, or sunday togetherr every weekk.

He isnt acting the same.I get the feeling he dont want to be with me. Hes not him self. We bearly talk anymore.and last saturday, we were suppose to hang out, and then he went into a suicidal stage, he gets like that like 2-3 times a month, but this was the first time that hes actually told me goodbye and that he had to do it.

I kinda get the feeling, that hes waiting for me to be the one ending it, cause he dont want to do it, but yet he dont want to be in the realationship nomore.

I D K wat to do;. I love him to death, but i cant keep going like this.. Im not one to be able to do long distance relationship. and only seeing each other a couple times a year.

I feell like I could be with him for months to come, but i also feel, that hes thinking stuff, and letting it not be said. like he dont want to seem like its all on him...


-- Posted by Amazingness99 at 1:23 pm on Jan. 8, 2009

If he's suicidal, that means he has been depressed long before he went into that "suicidal stage" you mentioned. And if that's the case, then he might not even WANT to end it. Just give him some time and let him know that you're there if he ever needs to talk. And that he can tell you anything.


-- Posted by babyeri2009 at 1:27 pm on Jan. 8, 2009

yea i told him plenty of times that im here for him. like i tell him everyting, and when he gets that way, he just shuts me out. or be like just leave it alone. or he'll just say cuz. like one sec hes happy, then the next, hes thinking about suicide. i trust him alot and he says with me to. but when he gets that way, i always tell him im there for him, and then he'll shut me out. we use to send over 200 text back and fourth a day, but now its like we talk for 30 mintues out of a 24 hr period. IDK. i sent him an email on myspace the other night, askin about it, and the only thing he said was that, if he didnt want to be here then he wouldnt.


-- Posted by runthespread at 1:27 pm on Jan. 8, 2009

How serious is it? Get him to talk or tell someone your concerns. He could just be in conflict and perhaps waiting for you to end it due to his insecurities and all that, he might not want to hold himself accountable should he regret it.


-- Posted by babyeri2009 at 8:26 pm on Jan. 8, 2009

I D K how serious the suicide thing is. hes talked about it before but never took any actions, to follow with what hes said. yeah he may just be in a problem. I know he has insercurities. Since we started dated hes always told me that he feels im gonna leave him for someone else. some one closer, someone better look (I D K he thinks hes not good lookin cuz he is. ) I love everything about him, the only thing i dont is that hes negative about himself. i d k why he dont seem him self the way i do. then agan, he probakly wonders the same thing about me, cause ive alwas been negative about myself.


-- Posted by bobokitty9513 at 8:43 pm on Jan. 8, 2009

hey as long as he isnt with omther girl then go for it and take hime


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