-- Posted by Anonymous at 9:46 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 it's gotten to the point where i can't even hang out with other guys or he freaks out. and it sucks because i don't really get along with girls. all my best friends are guys. i wouldn't do anything to hurt him. i don't know why he doesn't trust me so much. any help here? -- Posted by ijustdontknow at 9:47 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Tell him either to clean up his act or just plain dump his ass. -- Posted by FinallyRealizing at 9:48 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 He must of got hurt b4  if he actin like that -- Posted by AliciaVengeance at 9:48 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Talk to him about it. If he doesn't want to change then leave him. -- Posted by HowAboutsNo at 9:48 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 try to get out of him why he is so jealous. perhaps you need to show him that you care about him more. is he insecure? -- Posted by gwen gardner at 9:49 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 FUCK MEN!!! -- Posted by runthespread at 9:50 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 I'm not all that jealous, but I used to be more. The thing is as a guy, I know that not all guy friends are just friends. Girls may view them as such but some guy friends are just guys waiting for the right chance, banking on friendship to translate into something meaningful. You may not intend to hurt your bf or anything, but you're still with potential guys whether you realize it or not. Another thing is, not being able to get along with girls and only guys can mean something. Of course, he could just be overly jealous. In that case, you have to calmly talk to him and he has to calmly talk to you. -- Posted by Lady Catastrophic at 9:52 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Don't deal with guys like that... a lot of the times it turns out badly so tell him to shape up, or kick him to the curb. -- Posted by blufindr at 9:57 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Dump him. -- Posted by nik1 at 1:14 am on Jan. 9, 2009 It's a control tactic that insecure people use.  If you give in to him you are setting yourself up for other control strategies.  If you want to be strapped down then allow him to close you off from all your friends.  You will feel horrible about yourself if you allow it to happen. I would suggest that you give him an ultimatum....straighten up or find another girl to try to control. -- Posted by Hoebag at 4:10 am on Jan. 9, 2009 Hai. All you can really do here is show him that you can be trusted however, some people are just naturally jealous, it's just because he cares but if it's getting too much I wouldn't stay around in the relationship. If you give into his jealousy then he knows he has a control over your life and that isn't what you want. I suggest you try and talk to this about him first, if he doesn't understand or it carries on I just say tell him it's not working, because it doesn't sound like it is. You shouldn't be pulled away from your friends because of some guy in your life, it's not fair. If you decide to break up with him, give him a fair explanation of why you're doing it, don't just tell him it's over and leave it because it's always nicer to have an explanation, well, it doesn't make it any easier than it is I guess but some reassurance that someone isn't physically good enough can be a bit of an ease on their mind. Good luck! -- Posted by MoZ at 6:58 am on Jan. 9, 2009 just reassure him he is the one you want, hell even invite him along? If his mind is put to rest, he will be alot happier. -- Posted by Mindwalker at 10:47 am on Jan. 9, 2009 Do what you want to do, if you have a lot of guy friends and you want to hang with them then do so, and your bf can either deal with it or leave. To be honest sometimes the bf wants to protect his gf, but that is supposed to be from certain people that they have evidence to believe you need protection from, if it is all guys or else you cannot go with a guy friend without him tagging along then that's fucked. Assure him that you aren't going to cheat on him and that these are just friends you are hanging with, trust me if you end up with one of these guys in the end it will be because your bf wasnt right for you not because all guys are trying to get into their female friends pants. My advice in general dont be with a guy who gets to be that level of jealous, a little bit of jealousy is ok, it sparks him to do his best, but too much and the next step is violence and/or choosing your clothes and friends for you. Take care of yourself and remember there is no shame in calling the authorities if need be. -- Posted by SSBBG at 12:27 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 well tell him if he doesnt want to lose you then he is going to have to trust you better then that. Its not far for you to have to choice your friends or him... u should be able to have both and not have to put up with any BS -- Posted by child of rock n roll at 7:48 pm on Jan. 10, 2009 Please pm me. I am going through the EXACT EXACT same thing, and feel the EXACT same way.