-- Posted by mollymarie at 11:18 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 i really like this guy who ive been off and on with for almost half a year. we came very close to having sex but got in an argument before anything like that could happen. we went two months without talking to each and we are finally beginning to talk to each other again. he's apologized to me for all he's said and done in the past. i thought things were going well. i asked him if he still had feelings for me and he said "to be honest, yea i do" but then i find out he's been hitting on one of my best friends who he's never even met before (they were just talking on facebook) and hes only been talking to her for a day. he tells me, "i dont think you and i are gonna work out. i like your friend. i just said i liked you because i know you've been depressed lately" OUCH. that is bullshit. my friend's mom just died but he didnt have to lie to me to make me feel better. i hadnt even told him that i still liked him, so why would he lie to me? his story makes no sense. anywhooo.. i wrote him an IM saying how could he be with me for so long and know me so well but he wants to blow it all on a girl he's never even met? so now he's decided that he likes both of us and cant choose which one he likes the best... im so torn up about this. this always happens to me. im trying not to let him ruin my friendship with her but its getting a little strained even though she doesnt even like him and practically already has a boyfriend. i cant take this. he and i went to third base. im still so into him and i just let him do these things to me and hurt me so badly. i am literally going to sit by the phone all weekend, waiting for him to pick me instead. no matter what he does, i cant seem to be able to get over him. and also, he asked me to tell my friend that he liked her...! wtf is that?? will anybody help me please?? i dont know what the hell im supposed to do.... and please dont say dump him. hes not dumpable because we arent even in a relationship. and i cant get over him. ive liked him since i first met him over a year ago. HELP. -- Posted by ChemicEmotions at 11:19 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 You need to stop talking to him and get him out of your head. Replace him. Obviously, you're not in a relationship- everybody is open game; but he's not taking his feelings seriously, if he even has any. Do you really want to risk having a kid with this guy? Is he even worth it? -- Posted by ChemicEmotions at 11:24 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 By "risk having kids", I'm assuming since you've almost had sex before, you will eventually have sex if you were to get with this guy. I'm asking: is it worth the risk? Aren't there better people out there? -- Posted by mrsgabbysmall at 11:27 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 ok fine, i won't say dump him. how about, just don't date him. i know i myself wouldn't date someone that said stuff like that to me. -- Posted by mollymarie at 11:27 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 you're right of course. but the problem is he still wont stop calling. and we go to a very small school with very few places to hang out or have classes in i see him everwhere i turn and the holiday break didnt help me get closure. he is most definitely not worth it thank you for your time :) -- Posted by mollymarie at 11:29 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 thanks mrsgabbysmall :) im working on it i need to get him out of my head... -- Posted by nik1 at 1:08 am on Jan. 9, 2009 He's just a normal immature teenage male that is thinking with his dick and not his brain.   Just tell him to call you when he grows up. -- Posted by mollymarie at 4:39 am on Jan. 9, 2009 i like that :) i think i'll do that thanks nik1 -- Posted by MoZ at 7:24 am on Jan. 9, 2009 no... he is just keeping his options open in case one doesnt happen. Move on. -- Posted by mollymarie at 6:44 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 i'm in even deeper shit. he convinced me to hook up with him again the other day. we still havent gone all the way so that part is fine. but now he's ignoring me and wont talk to me unless i set him up with my friend. i need to get out asap =[ why are guys such tools to me? -- Posted by theyareAs at 7:19 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 We're not all tools, n hes a guy, we're like that at times. We keep how options open n play the field if we are single. Try giving him a talking to, try an ultimatum??