-- Posted by NZ Guy at 2:11 am on Jan. 9, 2009 I have a mate. We have know each other about three years. Part way through we had a wile of man on man sexual fun, but thats not important. This last year his mum has been sick. She was diagnosed with cancer in January of last year and in about September she was told it had gone into remission. In December it had come back and they didn't think she would make it till christmas, but she did, and she is till with us now, but they arn't for how much longer. Over the last year my friendship with my mate has become more difficult and he has kinda treated me like shit. Before his birthday (in june) we had spent about every second weekend together drinking and so on, but once he turned 18 it pretty much all stopped. I went nuts at him about how it made me feel he had just used me as a place to have drinks and so on, so he started to come and visit me from time to time. But that then stopped again. The only times he would see me was to see if I had any new movies, and that was it. If I started a conversation on MSN he would end it when he could. I'd call into see him and he would just sit there watching tv and pretty much not say anything. We had organized to do stuff for new years, but he 'lost his phone' 3 days before new years and then 'found it' new years morning, so I hadn't been able to text him to sort out the final details, like where we were meeting up. New years eve, he was with one of his cousins, who has my cellphone number and one of my cousins who also had my cellphone number, so he could have text me. My cousin that he was with said that he kept going on about how hot my sister is and stuff like that. He had said something about that to me a wile back, but had said he was just trying to wind me up, I'm now not so sure. I just was wondering what you guys thought and if it was really worth me trying to be friends with him. When ever I have tried to talk about this with him he seems to turn it around onto me and I'm kinda sick of it. -- Posted by Brawler at 2:12 am on Jan. 9, 2009 you didnt have to mention the wild man on man sex you know.... -- Posted by giraffeofdoom at 2:15 am on Jan. 9, 2009 Ditch the ass. You deserve friends who want to be your friends, not chums who are trying to use you. -- Posted by LtrOusRtD at 2:17 am on Jan. 9, 2009 mmmm try and keep it going if you can, but don't push it -- Posted by NZ Guy at 2:25 am on Jan. 9, 2009 I have started to ignore since new years, he has text me, i havent replyed, I have blocked him on msn, removed him as a friend on bebo and so on. -- Posted by Bakker at 2:52 am on Jan. 9, 2009 Maybe he's really serious abouut your sister and feels like she won't take him seriously if he's your friend. -- Posted by lyssabear at 3:02 am on Jan. 9, 2009 Uhh, well, it sound's like he's done with you. I'd move on. I mean, if he's going to treat you like shit, why stay?