-- Posted by Anonymous at 4:14 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 I am a completely straight male, yet yesterday I saw a guy at school and I thought he was very attractive. I have never thought that about a guy before, but I am not gay and never will be. What does this mean? -- Posted by amiee at 5:35 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 Honestly? I don't really think it means anything. If you're sure and comfortable with your sexuality at the moment then try not to worry about this. I'm a straight female but I'm able to recognise attractive females. I'm not attracted to them but there's no denying that they are attractive! As humans we can all recognise beauty and think of people, anyone, as attractive. It doesn't mean that you're gay, though. I honestly don't think this is anything to worry about. If you find yourself noticing guys more and becoming attracted to them at some point then that's something you can deal with later but, for now, you feel comfortable enough within your sexuality. Don't worry about it, there's absolutely nothing wrong with noticing someone attractive of the same sex. We all do it. -- Posted by Anonymous at 6:32 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 No, I can recognise a guy with good looks and I know that is normal for a guy to be able to tell that. What was confusing is that I was actually physically atracted to him, like in a sexual way. It was really weird because I've never had that feeling about a guy before.   I asked a few trusted freinds about it. One of them (female) said that she has been atracted to girls before, but she would never go lesbian or bi because thats just not who she is. Two other freinds of mine (both male) said that they have never had that before, and that it is weird. -- Posted by amiee at 6:48 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 Oh, I see. Sorry for misunderstanding =\ Again though, I don't think it's anything to worry about too much. Honestly, a lot of straight people have felt physically attracted the same sex. I'm not just pulling random crap out of the air either - I know this from having been told it by friends many, many times and from even seeing things posted about it on livewire. I mean, who knows what this means? It could have just been a one time thing, utterly random (I have a friend who has had a "girl crush" before and she's engaged to be married to a male and considers herself very straight. She knows that she'd only ever be in a relationship with men but accepted that she's found a few women over the years attractive and has been attracted to them). I don't know. I suggest that you just see how this progresses and try not to worry about it too much, it'll only stress you out and make you feel pretty shit (by the sounds of it). It could mean anything and it could mean nothing at all. As we grow up our feelings can change and it can be weird and quite often it ends up being absolutely nothing at all. I honestly believe that as we're growing up we all experiment and we're all exposed to loads of different emotions about both the same sex and the opposite sex. Give yourself some time and just see how it goes, y'know? I tend not to worry about labels too much, especially as a teen because our emotions are always changing and we're always experiencing new things. Your friend admitting that she's felt that way too shows you that it's normal and common. -- Posted by Anonymous at 7:05 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 Yeah, I know. Its probably normal, but I dont know...it just felt so weird. I might try and find out why, maybe it was something about that one guy. I just really want to know what I found atractive about him. -- Posted by noraa at 10:11 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 I think you should just take it as it goes. If you start to see more guys as attractive, then you could be bisexual, or maybe even gay.   Don't try and find out. Just live your life and see what comes. You don't need a label. If you overthink it, you'll make conclusions and warp things and nothing will make sense. Trust me, I know from experience. Take it as it comes, don't force it. I had a crush on a girl, and it turned out that I was bisexual. But my best friend had a crush on a girl and it turned out she was straight. It can go either way. My point in all of this is that what will be will be: don't try and figure out exactly why. "I don't know who I am, but you know, life is for learning", as Joni Mitchell puts it. Don't spend your time trying to figure it out. You'll grow up and you'll learn it. -- Posted by Anonymous at 10:28 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 Yeah but the problem is that if I am gay or bi then there is no way that I could have sex with another guy, I can barely even have sex with a girl. Its the way I was raised. Its really creepy to think of me ever having a boyfreind, it kinda scares me to think that I might. I thought that my sexuality was surely straight, and I was comfortable talking about and with gay people, but after this...I just dont feel all that comfortable anymore. I need some serious alone time to think about this...