-- Posted by Neodymie at 3:43 am on Jan. 11, 2009 I hate it when my friends are upset and they wont talk to me. I wanna help but it's kinda hard when I don't know what the problem is. Girl tells me she spent the night crying. I ask whats wrong she wont tell me. Then she says shes driving and I ask where and she tells me out of this town. I said I would go to her house to talk to her. I said she could come up to my house. I volunteered to meet her somewhere. All no. This is frustrating, I worry about her but she wont let me help. -- Posted by aleiram51 at 3:44 am on Jan. 11, 2009 you're so nice. -- Posted by Bakker at 3:45 am on Jan. 11, 2009 Sounds like she doesn't want to ask for help but sub-consciously, she really needs it. -- Posted by scout123 at 3:45 am on Jan. 11, 2009 this is what we like to do. we get upset and push you away. then we get pissed when you say 'okay i'll leave you alone' because you left us. it's a TEST -- Posted by ShadyNarCotic at 3:46 am on Jan. 11, 2009 All i can suggest is Give her time and space to think stuff over... I even tend to do that myself..and i don't mean to -- Posted by Rainbow Blight at 3:47 am on Jan. 11, 2009 I don't think there's really anything you *can* do to fix the problem abruptly.  Maybe something really traumatic happened to her recently and she hasn't gotten over the initial shock yet.  I'd say give her time.  Be supportive, be nice to her, call her, just don't talk about the problem.  Eventually she'll start to get over it and she'll start opening up to you about it.  This is what I've seen in my experience; it takes time. -- Posted by giraffeofdoom at 3:50 am on Jan. 11, 2009 I have a friend like that. I just have to let her go off, and cry alone. After that shes usually good to go, or atleast talk to me. -- Posted by cherryD at 4:01 am on Jan. 11, 2009  I think basically she just wants to deal with it alone. Although you can try to help her, there's nothing much you can do if she doesn't want to talk about it. All you can do is offer to listen to her if she wants someone to talk to. -- Posted by NikkiG at 4:11 am on Jan. 11, 2009 she wants to deal with it herself. Leave her alone creep -- Posted by its only me at 4:16 am on Jan. 11, 2009 So many of my friends are like that, and in some cases so am i. She probably just needs some space by herself to get things sorted in her own head. Then after that she may start talking.   Speaking from being on both sides of the argument, although its hard to stand back and watch her like this she needs to be able to deal with whatevers bothering her on her own terms. Sometimes in these situations a help just makes a hinderence.   I'm a worrier too. All you can do is make sure she knows you're there to talk to and trust she'll come to you if need be. :) -- Posted by Neodymie at 4:17 am on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from NikkiG at 4:11 am on Jan. 11, 2009 she wants to deal with it herself. Leave her alone creep Piss off bitch! -- Posted by NikkiG at 4:20 am on Jan. 11, 2009 kiss my pussy bitch -- Posted by Neodymie at 4:21 am on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from NikkiG at 4:20 am on Jan. 11, 2009 kiss my pussy bitch Sorry, rather not catch herpes.. -- Posted by NikkiG at 4:21 am on Jan. 11, 2009 if u bad then do somethin ho -- Posted by Neodymie at 4:22 am on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from NikkiG at 4:21 am on Jan. 11, 2009 if u bad then do somethin ho Wanna repeat that in english? -- Posted by NikkiG at 4:23 am on Jan. 11, 2009 Im jus messin withchu. Keep doin what u doin baby -- Posted by Neodymie at 4:29 am on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from NikkiG at 4:23 am on Jan. 11, 2009 Im jus messin withchu. Keep doin what u doin baby Uhhm, I think I kinda understood that one. -- Posted by NikkiG at 4:32 am on Jan. 11, 2009 I love u! -- Posted by Neodymie at 4:43 am on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from NikkiG at 4:32 am on Jan. 11, 2009 I love u! Love you too I guess.?