-- Posted by hazeleyedangel at 10:10 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Let's say that your significant other of well over a year cheated on you once. They feel extremely regretful and are incredibly sorry and willing to do anything to make it up to you. If you take them back to try and work through things, does that tell the cheater that it's okay to cheat? -- Posted by PrideAndJoy at 10:11 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 No. People make mistakes. To err is human, to forgive is divine. -- Posted by AcidSilence at 10:12 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Forgive them. If it happens a second time tho? No way. -- Posted by meat pole at 10:14 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from PrideAndJoy at 10:11 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 No. People make mistakes. To err is human, to forgive is divine. http://www.golivewire.com/forums/profile.cgi?action=a&member=divine judgement Divine Judgement? -- Posted by A6stringpoet at 10:15 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Nah I'd say once a cheater, always a cheater. I would like to think the best in people but honestly, if you can't be strong enough to keep up your guard the first time, the second time will be too easy. This isn't to say that a person can't learn from their mistakes, but imo, if they cheat they've cast away what is valuable in a relationship and that is true unbridled trust. -- Posted by Clara Bell at 10:16 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 I don't it tells them it's 'ok' to cheat, but it tells them "if this happens again, she'll take me back." -- Posted by blufindr at 10:16 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Not at all. However, I'd have my suspicions about their faithfulness in the future. -- Posted by Erebus at 10:26 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Take them back, but I wouldn't trust them nearly as much. If it happens again and they feel "extremely regretful" again, Don't take them back the second time. If the feeling was so bad the first time around, why go through it again, if they really cared? -- Posted by hithere at 10:33 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 it does if you don't hold them to what they said about doing anything to make it up to you -- Posted by Shaknbake at 11:02 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from HazelEyedAngel at 10:10 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Let's say that your significant other of well over a year cheated on you once. They feel extremely regretful and are incredibly sorry and willing to do anything to make it up to you. How do you know what they feel? They say they're sorry, so they are sorry? If you take them back to try and work through things, does that tell the cheater that it's okay to cheat? Not if they think like a normal person, but I've met people, and I'm sure you have to, who seem to come to pretty stupid conclusions. -- Posted by rijames99 at 8:40 pm on Jan. 12, 2009 I don't believe it means that, but I do believe before a couple reconsiles in that situation that they both come to understand what was lacking in the relationship that led the guy to look elsewhere. It requires both parties to be open and take responsibility. -- Posted by MoZ at 2:15 am on Jan. 13, 2009 everyone deserves a second chance - especially if they show remorse. -- Posted by InnocentTears at 8:15 am on Jan. 13, 2009 I took my boyfriend back. At first you will have major trust issues, but after that things should get back to normal. Also you will have the say in the relationship from now on which is always a bonus AND if you love someone that much it's stupid to throw it away over a simple mistake. And believe me if he's that sorry he WONT do it again.