-- Posted by captain obvious at 11:45 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 i was talking to a friend of mine about my girlfriend of whom i've been going out with for a little more than three months now she said once it got to 5 & 7 months it would be really hard. i've heard of deadlines like this before & i was just wondering what are the times? why does this happen? & how can i avoid them? i love my girlfriend dearly & i just want to be proactive & avoid as many problems as possible before they even happen. -- Posted by islandgirl at 11:46 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 hard in what way? -- Posted by misssmadejavuu at 11:48 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 I've only had 2 relationships last over 2 months, my last relationship was 6 months and started getting bad around 3 months, and in my current relationship (we've been dating 2 1/2 months) it is still going good. -- Posted by foambuddy at 11:48 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 its gets harder cause you get even more attached and well people get scared when this happend therefore they try to somehow protect themselves from getting hurt The root of the problem most of the time is jealousy -- Posted by fullmooncurse at 11:49 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 It gets hard when you find someone else that makes you feel just as good as your bf/gf does. -- Posted by medjai at 11:49 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Once one party starts to take the other for granted, or both take each other for granted, difficulty arises. -- Posted by Jman19 at 11:53 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 When there is a boner involved.. No but, there is no set date for things to get 'hard'... just don't take each other for granted. -- Posted by The Professional at 11:53 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 You can't predict the problems that will arise, but rest assured, they will come.  If both of you are committed, and both of you are truthful and loyal, that is the most important thing.  Every issue that may come between you two can be diffused, discussed, and a compromise or resolution can be found. The problems only become truly toxic when one or both partners fail to remain loyal, honest, or committed to eachother.  It isn't the issue itself, it's how you deal with the issue, basically. -- Posted by Johvanni at 12:00 am on Jan. 12, 2009 3 months