-- Posted by penumbra at 2:23 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 I just had a reality check and realized that the concept of relationships are utterly depressing. We're not naturally monogamous creatures, in all likelihood, in a relationship, after the initial infatuation stage, the relationship will become a practical arrangement. You will frequently be more attracted to others than your partner, you will pprobably get crushes on other people, you will constantly be drawn towards a natural desire to have sex with other people, and you will lie to try and cover up all of your slip ups in these areas. The only way to be in a relationship it seems is to, after the honeymoon phase, resign to a completely practical arrangement where you stay together out of mutual respect and as friends. But you have to let go of any posessiveness or dependence you have in regards to them desiring you, because, allthough in relationships we maintain the nonplatonic rituals, our partner basically becomes a platonic object to us in our heads after a year or so... relationships are not what they seem... -- Posted by Aliboo at 2:24 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 the thoughts that always get me is that, even though i adore every moment with him, we wont be together for ever. -- Posted by danndivision at 2:24 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 maybe yours but not everyone elses -- Posted by GoldenAdia18 at 2:24 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 well.... that does seem somewhat true, but that may be an exxhageration -- Posted by Rocket boy at 2:25 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 My boyfriend broke up with me... :( -- Posted by yayyayfun3 at 2:25 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 WOW< THANK YOU -- Posted by lestat1990 at 2:25 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 wow ur almost as depressing as me -- Posted by EyelashWishes at 2:25 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 i completely agree with you. -- Posted by honeybee3333 at 2:25 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 Quote: from Aliboo at 5:24 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 the thoughts that always get me is that, even though i adore every moment with him, we wont be together for ever. this -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 2:25 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 To you maybe.  And no one said you HAD to be in a relationship, or a monogamous one for that matter if you still want to be in one.  Each couple makes their own rules. -- Posted by kitts at 2:26 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 Quote: from GoldenAdia18 at 5:24 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 well.... that does seem somewhat true, but that may be an exxhageration this -- Posted by Majo at 2:29 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 Quote: from danndivision at 5:24 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 maybe yours but not everyone elses This. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and we're just as sexually interested in one another as we were when we first started dating. And I can't imagine not being with him, him telling me that he loves me and holding me and kissing me, it'd hurt so much to not be with him anymore. And being his friend is one of the greatest things about our relationship, I don't think you should be with someone who isn't your friend as well. He's the best friend I've ever had and always worries about me and takes care of me no matter what. -- Posted by theyareAs at 2:31 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 You have to find mutual equal love, one of u cant love the other more. gots to be the same -- Posted by bigdutchman at 2:34 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 I think most people (apparently you included) just have never completely fallen in love. -- Posted by The Persuader at 2:36 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 Can't say it's true. Never been in a relationship but it might be true. Especially the platonic part. -- Posted by DawningMidnight at 2:37 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 yeah but love.... llove? maybe?? i dont know ive never had a relationship -- Posted by Majo at 2:39 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 Quote: from Donny Pav17 at 5:36 pm on Jan. 14, 2009 Can't say it's true. Never been in a relationship but it might be true. Especially the platonic part. I think it's somewhat true but not negative like the OP seems to think. When you first fall in love/lust, everything is exciting and new and sexy. But after a while, nothing is really all that new anymore. This is where things get interesting -- people either split up because they aren't in love anymore and never really were or they stay together because, even though the novelty of the relationship has worn off, they still love one another. It's a difference, IMO, between the passion being insanely hot and it burning down to where it's just steady and you learn to love your partner as more than just a fuck toy.