-- Posted by AdviceGuy158 at 7:17 pm on June 16, 2005 I'm not excatly sure of where to post this, but this kinda stuff is for people who have graduated from high school.  Do any of you out there still have the same friends you went to high school with?  The reason why I am asking is that I was told once you leave high school.  Things change.  One of those changes is that most of your friends usually go in a different direction and your no longer friends with them.  Do you think this sounds true to you?  Why or why not? -- Posted by Hey Baby at 7:21 pm on June 16, 2005 I graduated Saturday, I guess this doesn't apply to me since we're still kinda partying because of it.. -- Posted by AMC13579 at 10:14 pm on June 16, 2005 I'm not friends with all of my friends that I had in high school but there are several of them that I still talk to on a daily to every other day basis even though I have been living over 2,000 miles away from them and where I grew up for over two years now. My best friend and I talk at least every day actually but then we have been friends since we were 4 years old so I imagine we will be good friends regardless of how old we are or where we live. I also have several guys that I have been friends with since I was about 14 or 15 that I still talk to several times a week. There are others that I see when I come home every 6 months or so but I don't talk to them at all otherwise. Its always nice to see them though and see what they have been up to. We have all gone our different directions but I really believe it is up to the people involved whether or not they wanna keep up those connections later on. Don't expect them to stay the same at all, they never do, but sometimes the altered version is great also. -- Posted by KateJ at 7:21 am on June 17, 2005 I'm still good friends with only one person that I was friends with from high school. In college you change a lot and generally just drift apart. It sounds really sad, but you also make really close friends in college. -KateJ -- Posted by AdviceGuy158 at 8:17 am on June 17, 2005 I would like some advice then.  I've been talking to a friend who has jus finished 10th grade from school.  She says that she already has her future planned out and says that she would always have her friends forever.  I had told her that she maybe in for a big suprise after high school.  They all plan to live in a house and then go to college she said.  She was having a hard time listening to my advice when I told her about this.  I would also bet bucks that things will change as well for them in the future.  Why do you think a lot of people say that they will never lose their friends after high school and find out that they do eventually lose them? -- Posted by AMC13579 at 10:31 am on June 17, 2005 People have to find out for themselves what is going to happen. To be entirely honest, I have a lot of friends from back home that did stay close and a couple of them did end up rooming together in college. Others just kinda went their own way. Like I said, I don't live even remotely near any of my friends but I still tlak to some of them very often and see others on occassion. Let your friend think what she wants to think. Personally, I LOVE dreaming and thinking and planning for the future. As I've gotten older, I've realized that this is always subject to change but some of them do come out the way I want them to also. My advice is to leave your friend alone about this and let her think whatever she wants to. What is it going to hurt her? We both know that it probably won't happen and she will probably decide on something else before then, or maybe after she does it and finds out it isn't what she hoped. But what is it hurting to let her think about it now? Most likely the idea makes her happy. If you keep trying to convince her of why it isn't going to work you are just going to make her miserable and pessamistic about her future. Let the poor girl dream! Its certainly not going to hurt you and I don't see how it is going to hurt her either except for possible disappointment and learning that is inevitable and beneficial in life. These dreams and plans aren't necessarily just about her future but it most likely is strengthening the bonds that she has with these friends now. As far as I am concerned, this is incredibly healthy and beneficial for her to be hoping for this. -- Posted by PrettygirlLX at 7:37 am on June 18, 2005 I had three friends since the third grade of elementary school. I still talk to those same three friends daily. After high school: one friend went to a school 2 hours away, the other two friends went to a school 45 minutes away, and I went to a community college. Now: the one that went to the school 2 hours away is in Georgia, but is going to go to the community college I went to; one of the ones that went to the school that is 45 minutes away is now attending the community college I went to; and me and the other friend are at the school that is 45 minutes away. We all keep in touch with each other by hanging out with each other when we can, calling, and emailing each other. It does not matter what direction you take in life, real friends will always be there for you. -- Posted by NYGirl1113 at 10:39 pm on June 18, 2005 I just finished my freshman year in college and I am probably still friends with only a few people.  Only the people I truly like.  In high school I would hang out a lot with people I didn't like if I was around them too much, or just people I was SORT of friendly with, those people I don't talk to anymore.  My core friends I still hang out with a lot.  I proably have about 4 or 5 friends that I still talk to and we all went to different sides of the country when graduation came around. If you are good friends with somebody, you'll stay friends with them, if you are just sort of friendly with them, odds are you won't.  You do have to take extra effort. (Edited by NYGirl1113 at 10:43 pm on June 21, 2005) -- Posted by kira at 11:16 am on June 20, 2005 I think that in high school it can often feel like things are never going to change and so you make big long term plans about things you and your friends are going to do.  In some cases if you make an effort to stay close with those friends after you graduate then they might actually happen. i thought that somethings about my life and friends would never change, but they did.  There are so many new opportunities in college that I didn't really think about and account for which have caused me to change a lot. I'm going to be a junior in college next year and I've found that over the past few years I have lost contact with a lot of friends from high school.  It's not that I'm not friends with them anymore, it's just that we don't see each other because our lives are so separate.  But with some of them I do try to make an effort to see them a few times in the summer when I am home. I've noticed that, for me anyway, you get to be close friends with people in college faster than in high school.  I think this is probably because you basically live with them.  I eat dinner and lunch with them everyday and I do homework with some of them in the evening.  There is just a lot more time spent with friends in college than in high school. -- Posted by kait85 at 5:15 pm on June 28, 2005 i think after high school people change. When i graduated i  never saw my friends again we don't keep in contact nemore -- Posted by Broken Dreamer at 9:04 pm on June 28, 2005 I will be graduating in may 2006 from college and I dont really speak to many people that I went to high school with.  I think out of all my friends in high school I only talk to like 2 of them.  I found that most of the relationships I had with people then were very shallow and fake, it gets better in college. -- Posted by NYGirl1113 at 1:58 am on June 29, 2005 Quote: from Broken Dreamer at 9:04 pm on June 28, 2005 I found that most of the relationships I had with people then were very shallow and fake, it gets better in college. I couldn't agree more. -- Posted by AMC13579 at 12:59 pm on June 29, 2005 Quote: from Broken Dreamer at 10:04 pm on June 28, 2005 I found that most of the relationships I had with people then were very shallow and fake, it gets better in college. I would agree for some friendships but like i said before I have some really, incredibly good friends that I am still in daily contact with in spite of being gone for over two years and having a 2,000 mile distance between us. I haven't made nearly as good of friends since I have been away but then again, my friendships I held onto from high school were people I had been friends with for anywhere from 4 to 14 years before I left home. It really depends on you you are friends with and how much they mean to you whether or not they will last. You definately can make lasting, quality friendships before college though. -- Posted by crazychris at 11:59 pm on June 30, 2005 I graduated in 2003 and moved around and stuff afterwards.  Now I live about four hours away and I'm still friends with a few people from back home.  Some of them I just talk to when I visit which is rare, but others I talk to on the phone.  Not everyday, but quite often.  I would say I am still friends with like five people, but two of them are kind of slipping away.  I went on a cruise with three other friends (out of the five) and two of them I went with are just sooooo annoying to me now.  They act like complete dorks and I can't see how we were ever friends.  The other friend of mine that went agreed with me on that but we still talk to them just because of old times I guess.  I don't know how much longer I will be friends with all of them, but I would think some of them may be friends forever.  Also, I did call them a lot which is probably why we are still friends.  I think it just takes communication in situations like that. -- Posted by Brooke01 at 10:20 pm on July 24, 2005 I still hang out with most of my friends from high school. Some have changed but most of them have stayed the same. Since I'm home on summer break now we party about every night. I went to a really small school so everybody in my grade is really close and have known each other our whole lives. It's fun to hear each other's college experiences from the past year and meet their friends they have over, too. -- Posted by Tenchi at 12:24 am on July 28, 2005 I'm friends with everyone in my graduating class.  they may not feel the same about me though.  I just try my best to love everyone. -- Posted by BeauBlondie17 at 2:39 pm on Sep. 13, 2005 I have very few people that I talk to from high school.  I still keep in touch with a lot of them but I have made a lot of new friends from college and the summer that I hang out with now.  After high school, everyone went their separate ways, and there is no better time to go on and do your own thing than after finishing high school.  The world just opens up and you realize that there is a life outside of the high school and people  that you were stuck in and with for 4 years.   -- Posted by challgeek252 at 6:33 am on Jan. 26, 2006 I have been out of high school for three years now and well my old high school gang I used to hang out a lot, but after one killer acedemic semester I stopped hanging out with them and I went throu some major changes so we rarely hang out anymore.   Actually my best friend I met right after high school and we have grown through college. People change and if you lose touch of the high school group don't sweat it... people who live in high school tend to be losers (no offense to the losers out there). -- Posted by sile at 5:02 pm on Jan. 27, 2006 Im not still friends with everyone i was friends with in high school but im still just as close to the ones who were important to me and i got on really well with. -- Posted by taurus bebe at 5:17 pm on Jan. 27, 2006 I graduated from high school and am going to college now. I'm still friends with my high school "friends," even though we weren't really close, and I was happy to start over again in college, with new friends and new people... But yeah, if you're close enough with a person, you're gonna stay friends with them. The key is to keep in touch through AIM or Facebook or phone or something...and really it's not hard to keep in touch. When you guys get home for break, hang out! It's pretty easy. -- Posted by itsluvthatimsendin2u at 10:14 am on Jan. 29, 2006 Well I'm in my first yr at uni, I also had 2 years of sixthform college between school and uni, and I still talk to alot of my friends from school several times a week. Some people I don't hear from much anymore, but I find if you make the effort to send the odd postcard etc, you can stay close to people. And IM and email help lots too! -- Posted by xokaty23madreexo at 7:10 pm on Feb. 13, 2006 You def. lose friends whenever you leave school, it is never the same. I tried the "living with a close friend," which truely does not workout. Whenever you leave the standard that you are used to like high school things end up changing because you are in a different environment and making new friends. Me and my first roommate who I graduated with are no longer friends at all. We experienced the new beginings together and it ended really bad. You change from who you were then into a different person. Some of the most determined people that I have ever met ended up becoming partiers and doign nothing but drinking and sleeping. It is normal and of course does happen, so don't worry and just remmeber that even if the friends that you have in high school are supposed to "last forever" you end up making friends who you live with that you will stay in contact with, truely forever!   -- Posted by Angel Reversed at 2:03 pm on Feb. 28, 2006 I graduated in 2003 with the younger grade of the double cohort in Ontario. I'm now in university in BC. I haven't seen or heard from most of my classmates from high school since prom, though I have kept in touch with my closest friends. There are five of them. And through them I've heard about how a few of my old classmates are doing, or I've seen some of them. But things are different now. I have had different social groups every year so far here. But I've made some new close friends. As for my five friends back home, one of them has finished her degree and is working at a radio station in a small town near Toronto, I saw her last Christmas, and at 2004-5 New Year's, and in the summer of 2004 since leaving. One of my friends will be finishing her degree this year and I think she plans on doing a year of Bible college next year. She doesn't communicate much with the other 4, but she does communicate with two or three other people who I knew. I've seen her last summer, and the summer before since leaving. One of my friends is at a university in my hometown doing a similar degree to what I'm doing. I think she'll be done next year (I'm going to take another two years because I'm also an athlete). I've seen her last Christmas, last summer, 2004-5 New Year's, and summer 2004 since leaving. Two of my friends go to the same university and are in the same program, but not the same classes. They've been meeting each other once a week for lunch. I've seen one of them last Christmas, last summer, 2004-5 New Year's and summer 2004, and the other one at the same times plus once in March of 2004. So, ya, I don't see them much, and our infrequent emails that used to be about 3 months apart have grown to be about every time I come home (Christmas and summer). We're not as close as we used to be, but it is a lot of fun to catch up and to see each other when we are in the same city at the same time. My sister, who graduated last year, is still in contact with her best friend. Her best friend went to the same elementary school as she did, but they went to different high schools. If my sister had decided to stay home for university, they'd be in the same program together and probably the same classes (since it is a small program). But she decided to go somewhere else for various reasons. Her best friend and her will probably remain best friends for a long time, despite their distance, because they've already had 4 years apart. -- Posted by stene at 9:44 pm on Feb. 28, 2006 We talk on facebook but that's about it. Every once in a while they'll drive the twenty minutes and come to the bars with me (campustown requires you to only be 19) but other than that I don't ever see them.  And we're all cool with that. I'm completely different than I was in highschool.  My old friends don't like that I party a lot, and I don't like sitting at home on a Friday night. ehh- people change.